My story


Pelpina's Story

I’ve always been skinny. And people around me have always had a hard time accepting it. I’ve heard it all: walking skeleton, toothpick, chicken legs, and walking stick.

In high school, classmates bullied me because of my petite appearance. While all the girls had pretty curves, I felt like I had the body of a 10-year-old boy. I became afraid to go to school, afraid for the comments and looks, so I started to wear lots of layers and wide clothes to hide my body.

I tried to gain weight. I first started eating a lot - 5 meals a day- and when that didn’t work, I tried to gain weight in unhealthy ways. I remember eating scoops of pure butter,drinking glasses of oilmix, and eating late at night on purpose: just to gain a few pounds. I never did.

That’s a long time ago, and it makes me sad to look back at the insecure girl I was then. I no longer feel insecure about my body, in fact - I'm proud of my natural beauty. I sometimes still find myself in situations where others judge my thin appearance. But now, I know those comments reflect on the criticizer's self esteem, not on the beauty of my body.

I've created this website for every naturally thin person out there who ever had to deal with criticism and feeling unaccepted. It's about time you hear the truth: You are beautiful the way you are!

After all, don't they say beauty comes in ALL sizes?

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  1. M. K.
    Posted December 8, 2007 at 9:18 pm | Permalink

    Thanks so much for being like so open and putting your story here. I’m Mary, i’m 15 and very skinny too ,i dun even know how much i weigh like exactly ,.. and espesially girlz in my class always make like stupid comments. like i should eat more and stuff. i think its just not fair that they say that because i can’t help it…..i eat a lot! and i don’t have boobs at all…and all the girls in my class do. :-( …..I always skip PE classes cause i just dont like em. but ur story helped me and i will check this site out often….thanks…

  2. Sharae Thomas
    Posted December 10, 2007 at 9:36 pm | Permalink

    I’m skinny and always have been… But i wanna gain weight I’m gonna try these pills called fever few… I hope it works. I wanna be thick and have them curves… Does anybody feel me?

  3. Posted December 11, 2007 at 4:38 pm | Permalink

    hi Sharae! Thanks for visiting! Yes, I feel ya! I know what it’s like to be skinny and wanting to gain weight. I’ve never heard about thos pills – if your doctor gave these to you, its fine – but if not, be careful what you put into your body…..
    One thing I can recommend = DONT TRY TO GAIN WEIGHT BY EATING UNHEALTHY FOOD. It really won’t help you in the long run. Instead, try to gain weight in a healthy way by exercising. I’m not talking about the tredmill, but try to gain weight by gaining muscle mass. (don’t worry, you won’t look like a boy – girls have a different body build than guys)
    Also – try to dress in a way that makes you appear fuller. Clothes can definitely make you look skinny or fuller than you really are. :-)

  4. olive oil
    Posted December 12, 2007 at 4:03 am | Permalink

    wow, there are other skinny people in the world!!!
    woo. ha.
    yeah ive always heard, your too skinny, are you anorexic, and all that crap.
    you dont hear me telling fat girls there too fat….

    i wish people could understand if its so natural to be fat, it can be natural to be skinny as well.

  5. Leeca
    Posted December 12, 2007 at 9:37 pm | Permalink

    Oh my goodness! Finally there ARE people like me in the world.
    It really does help knowing that i’m not alone in this. I cry myself to sleep sometimes wishing i could be normal.
    I’m not that small in height, in fact i’m rather tall but i’m ever so damn skinny that i get made fun of constantly because it’s worse to be tall and skinny…i get labled lanky…or chopsticks or walking skeleton, you know…the usual stuff.
    I’m so depressed about my appearance, some people are skinny and look LOVELY because they have nice faces to match but i’m so darn skinny and ugly that i hate myself. I eat peanut butter out of the jar…i finish a whole jar a day to myself until i feel sick but it doesn’t help me gain weight. I eat ALL THE TIME. Food is my only friend, it always comforts me after a bad day of teasing, i rush home to my food and pig out hoping that MAYBE just MAYBE today will be the day that the pigging out sessions finally make a difference. But it never does.
    I’m 5″3 and 86 pounds. I’M SO SICK of being this way, i hate it when people say oh there’s nothing you can do…it’s genetics…it really really bugs me because i’m at the end of my tether and they don’t sell any weight supplements where i live, if i want them i’d have to order them overseas and that would cost too much.
    I keep skipping PE too because i’m afraid of getting skinnier, and all the girls laughing at me.
    I hate climbing the stairs or doing any sort of activity that involves moving because i hate burning calories. I try to eat as much calories in a day that i can, pigging out on cakes, crisps, cheese, peanut butter, nuts, fish, meat, fruits, burgers, pizzas, anything i can get my hands on really.

    Ah gosh sorry this is so long but i guess this is kind of more of a vent than my story.

    I really struggle to come to terms with the fact that i may never gain weight, it’s just so hard.
    I can’t be a regular teen(I’m 15 btw) because everyone has mates that want to go out shopping whereas i’m stuck with no one and even if i do go shopping nothing fits me i have to wear UK sizes 6/8. I hate it so much.

    • Danielle
      Posted June 14, 2012 at 1:21 am | Permalink

      Hey, I see that you posted this in 2007 so you probably aren’t on here anymore but I’d like to let you know that exercising is NOT a bad thing… it can help you GAIN weight, and besides, it’s good for your body. I’m 5’2″ and 88 pounds.. I have a friend at work that is about 10 pounds heavier than me and she said she gain a few pounds by working out. And that’s what I’m going to start doing as well. Instead of trying to eat things that will help me gain weight (cuz nothing works), I instead focus more on what is healthy for me. Hold your head up.. I struggle with it too, but I don’t let it get me down too much :)

      • Posted June 22, 2012 at 9:18 pm | Permalink

        Hi Danielle!
        Yes, it’s been a while since I posted this, but I still check it all the time. Thanks so much for your comment – I’m glad it’s not getting you down too much! Thanks for the advice!! Glad you’re here! :)

  6. Posted December 13, 2007 at 5:08 am | Permalink

    hi Leeca,
    Thank you for sharing your story. It touched my heart, and I felt like I couldn’t just leave a simple reply, so I made a video for you, here’s the link:

  7. Leeca
    Posted December 13, 2007 at 7:25 pm | Permalink

    Thankyou so much. It really means a lot to me, it truly does and i cannot express that enough!
    Can you reccomend some excersises that will help me get bigger?
    I find it hard to resist the temptation of eating junk food because if it’s there, i will have it, i have little to no willpower and it sucks! I do eat a lot of fruit and vegetables aswell though, i eat anything and everything really but junk food seems to make me feel better.
    Btw i like your accent =P

  8. Posted December 14, 2007 at 1:46 pm | Permalink

    Dear Leeca! (btw, did I pronounce your name correct?)
    Good to hear from you again!
    If you would like to get a little bigger and fuller, I can recommend to do some good exercise that will make your muscles bigger. Naturally thin people can eat whatever they want without gaining weight, so instead – you should gain weight by exercising. Find something that you really enjoy doing, wether it’s weight lifting or rock climbing or anything else that will help you gain muscles. I personally really enjoy rock climbing, it’s a total work out for your entire body and almost all the muscles in your body. :-) It makes me feel a lot better about myself!
    Maybe junk food makes you feel better for that moment you’re eating it, but afterwards you don’t feel that good, do you? :-)
    Try not to eat a lot of junk food, it will really not help you to gain weight. Instead, try to eat healthy and regularly – try to create a good pattern of 3 to 4 big meals a day, and some snacks in between. This way, your body get’s used to a eating pattern.
    I will start a topic on how to handle criticism in a couple of weeks. I will talk to some professionals and councellors to give me some good advice so I can tell you how you can handle criticism from other people. I hope this will help as well.

    Oh and I”m from the Netherlands and came to Texas 3 yrs ago – so the accent is probably a mix of that hahaha! :-)

  9. Posted December 15, 2007 at 2:35 am | Permalink

    “I never diet, I never throw up and I certainly don’t have delusions of being fat…oh and I eat!!!” – I have had to repeat this so many times to get people to understand me

    I am in my 20s and since my premature birth I haven’t weighed as much as the average person. (Yet even now the word average is so wrongly used – someone needs to recount the “majority”). Well, my family has never been big and certainly not image conscious. I had always been to doctors when I was little and my mum recently said when she was describing my life to my boyfriend “She was so brave, always having some test or other. Lots of needles too”.

    In primary school somebody had reported my mother for neglect to the Social Services, claiming she was starving me. For the record, my mum did nothing but care for me and stick up for me when I was bullied and food was ALWAYS available to us kids and we were allowed to eat when we wanted. As Social Services found nothing to prove the allegation they never took further action.

    My time at primary school wasn’t a breeze either… I’ll explain. Once the comments and stares died down to a murmur and funny looks some action was taken.

    One of the receptionists of the school said to me, the school is having breakfast clubs in the mornings now. This is apparently you get to decide what cereal/toast and other foods you can have in the morning at school just before lessons start. The first day came when I was led through the then seemingly long corridor past the coat pegs, through the dinner hall, which was also one of the year 6 classrooms to a small box room at the back of the hall. I happened to be the only one in this “breakfast club”! And no one seemed to join after me. Every morning I did this routine and once word had spread about me as soon as the teacher left that class in the diner for a few minutes, they’d come up to the tiny window to the room I was in and just stare, make gestures and laugh.

    Well being a wimp back then I had no fighting talk or the wits.

    Senior school was just as much of a blast. Teenagers start to get more aware of appearances and peer pressure kicked in and so did the bullies. The “popular kids” my few close friends at the time called them. I was taunted every day anyway but the worst part was doing PE. Of course there’s a strict uniform with most schools and also a PE kit. Blue rugby shirt and navy blue shorts or PE skirt…no tracksuit bottoms allowed! Now I never showed a piece of skin to anyone other than hands and face obviously. The first bummer was the taunts got worse as they could actually see my boney physique instead of the usual baggy uniform hanging off my shoulders. The second bummer was the fact I had no fat on me so outdoor PE was so bitterly cold to me. The teachers used to say “stop trying to skive PE, you’ll warm up if you keep moving”…well I was just as active as the person next to me and I never warmed up. They wondered why I had so much time off!

    Nowadays the comments still fly but even though they can dent my confidence, they’ll never completely destroy it. I actually have a long-term boyfriend in which I never thought I’d meet someone genuine and non-judgemental about my appearance. I have hopes and dreams that do depend on me putting on weight so I have to keep trying.

    My lows now consist of not feeling like a 21 year old woman, but more of a 12 girl (of healthy proportion). I still see the doctor and have been taking nutrition drinks for uncountable years. I was even told point blank that considering I’m under the “average” weight…I might not ever be an “average” sized person. Someone of my age, height and build shouldn’t be getting periods and I’m sorry to publicly announce this but I am regular as clockwork and have never missed one. Also my energy levels are all over the place.

    I believe that one day I will be a good-looking weight despite the words of the docs.
    The fact I love food and have a large (in numbers) family who’ve never had an eating disorder shows that there is such a thing as a “natural zero”.

    taken from my website

  10. Posted December 19, 2007 at 3:56 am | Permalink

    Thank you Sarah, for sharing your story here. I agree with a lot of things you say. It’s good to know that there are more people like me in this world. Thank you for sharing your story.

  11. Leeca
    Posted December 22, 2007 at 1:42 pm | Permalink

    Thankyou for all of your help!! =]
    Yes you did pronounce my name right hehe!
    Wow that’s really cool, i’m just from the UK so my accent is really boring :(
    I look forward to seeing the article soon!

  12. Diandra
    Posted December 25, 2007 at 11:34 pm | Permalink

    COMPLETELY UNDERSTAND! everyone sees that i eat alot, but still find it necessary to tell me that i am so skinny. one girl, on the fatter side, said i need 2 go eat some sausage or something, even though she is one always saying i eat too much. so wat is it, do i need 2 stop eating that much because it disturbs you or do i need eat even more? i really hate it. my boyfriend says im skinny and looks like i came fron ethiopia. it just really pisses me off cuz its naturally. i have a small frame period!

  13. Ariel
    Posted January 2, 2008 at 3:45 am | Permalink

    I love your stories. It’s really nice to know that others are having similar problems instead of just opposite ones. I feel that being skinny doesn’t always look super good, but it is better than being obese. In truth, I am pretty scrawny which is quite odd taking into account that both my parents are a bit overweight and my sister who I am taller than by an inch is a full D cup and she isn’t particularly skinny.

    I am only 16, but I weigh a strapping 84 pounds at 5’3. My mom has said that when I break a hundred she will throw me a party. Or just threats to send me to a nutritionist. I unlike the other stories am very picky about food. I’m definitely not anorexic or anything, but if I don’t like what the food is, I probably won’t eat it. I go to a boarding school in Oregon and the meals vary from pasta to BLTs.

    The only reason I can think of why any of those girls would make fun of your weight is because they are extremely jealous. It doesn’t make any sense at all that they would be calling you too skinny when those skinny ones are the only people allowed on the runways.

    You can always find clothes that fit well. It may take a while to find them, but if you never give-up you can find cute clothes. I have taken to shopping at Abercrombie (the kid’s store). For jeans, Paper Denim usually fits and if you want to spend a lot of money, True Religion, Armani Exchange, Paige and Frankie B are great places for jeans. Tops you can find anywhere. I have found that a tank with a sweater is just perfect for mild weather. I wouldn’t however suggest wearing blazers.. eww

    Consider yourself lucky! There are more cute clothes for thinner people than there are for overweight people. Love your body, everyone else is jealous of it!!


  14. Posted January 9, 2008 at 12:55 am | Permalink

    Wooohooo!! Skinny Girls Rule!
    I never used to think that way growing up in Puerto Rico where most of the population thinks that a lil’ “arroz y habichuelas” would go great on my skinny butt!! hahaha I am 5’2” and have never weighed 100lbs…until I got pregnant!…twice…my highest wieght ever was 118 lbs…it was all baby and a lil on the bust, butt and legs… but it didn’t last long at all. 2 weeks after giving birth I went back down to my regular 90-95 lbs. It’s hard to gain weight. I have done the 2200 calories shakes…it didn’t do anything..I would even have them WITH a full meal….I am over it. I eat everything…I love food…and like Ariel says..we should cosider ourselves lucky that we can enjoy delicious food and great clothes. I am so happy this website exist…I was about to do one myself :)

  15. Cassie
    Posted January 17, 2008 at 1:32 am | Permalink

    I symphathize. I have always been pretty skinny. My lowest weight was 100 pounds at about 5’3″ or 5’4.” Now, surpisingly, after running a lot and doing some strength conditioning my weight has gone back up to 111 pounds. Yay! I can really basically eat anything I want. Today I had probably almost a half a jar of peanut butter. Sometimes I feel bad though, because other people gain weight so easily and I feel so lucky that my body doesn’t do that. Anyone else feel guilty sometimes for eating a lot of food (especially around friends who really try to control their weight)? I watch The Biggest Loser sometimes and it makes me feel really sad that they struggle so much. Lol, I wish I could give them my metabolism.

  16. Posted February 15, 2008 at 8:03 am | Permalink

    Dear Sara and all the other sisters

    Sara, is it possible for me to speak to you privately, my email address is, you have no idea how much this means to me, iam South African, and i’ve always wanted to startosmething of tis sort, i wanted to call my network, “skinny people unite!”
    i found this site late last year in december, and ive cried evrytime i read the comments, not only coz it is such a healing and an affirmation for me, but because i think it was a miracle that i found this site, as iam writing this, tears are soaking the keyboard, ive always wanted to talk to someone who truly understands.
    like i said if you do not mind, could we make a connection and see if i can replicate this in South Africa, somehow. got to go, dont want to be skinny and electricuted, talk again soon , i hope. thanks again. God Bless you, abundantly, and grant the desires of your heart.

  17. Tina
    Posted February 22, 2008 at 5:07 pm | Permalink

    This website helped me so much.
    I’m skinny and I know it. I can finally find people who know how I feel. on the first day in my middle school people gave out T’shirts.Then this lady called out ‘Small size”.I rasied my hand [REALLY SHY] and so did my friend [she sits in front of me]The lady looked at me and passed my friend [who was almost normal sized] and gave it to me.My friend looked at me jealously but I was suppose to be jealous “I’M THE ONE THAT’S SKINNY”! That same day I saw this girl and she was SKINNY! so I was talking to her then, my other friend came by.. I asked her ” I’m I skinner or her”
    [ the one I was talking to] She said me,, and left. I walked away and almost cried and said to myself am I that skinny?? That night I could hardly sleep I kept thinking I’m I skinny cause I don’t eat or what? I don’t eat and I don’t throw up.I eat at least five meals a day And I DON’T HAVE ANY KIND OF DESEASE! My mom always told me how skinny I am and how I can’t help move heavy stuff [ BUT I CAN!! FOR CRYING OUT LOUD JUST BECAUSE I'M SKINNY DOESN'T MEAN I'M NOT STRONG AND I COULD PROVE IT!.. I COULD FEEL MY TEARS FIGHTING TO COME OUT BUT IT DIDN'T ] I HAVE SMALL EVERYTHING BUTT,CHEST ANYTHING YOU CAN THINK OF. WHEN I GO ON GOOGLE I SEARCH FOR SKINNEY PEOPLE AND CLICKED PHOTOS . I WAS TERRIFED ”WHAT IF I LOOK LIKE THAT WHEN I’M OLDER! Sometimes people call me Stick person, paper girl and etc. So I tried excersing but then this lady came up to me and said Aren’t you skinny enough and laughed ? I stopped and went to the restroom almost crying.
    Any suggestions?
    Do e-mail please.!

  18. Posted March 8, 2008 at 1:00 am | Permalink

    Dear Tina,
    Thanks for visiting my website. I know it can be very frustrating – it’s very hard for other people to understand that your body might work different than theirs. A lot of times people make comments because they’re jealous. Don’t give up on working out – don’t listen to what other people say. You are beautiful the way you are!

  19. Donna Slater
    Posted March 24, 2008 at 7:16 pm | Permalink

    I was always skinny as a child and was teased a lot at school. I prayed to God to make me gain 10 pounds and I ate a lot of junk food, but nothing happened. Then in my 20`s being slim was fashionable so everything was OK. When I was in my 30`s I started working out with weights and I gained muscle but not fat and my figure really improved. Until the age of 60 everybody said what a good figure I had. But now that I`m in my 60`s the crap comments are starting again: you`re so thin; you`re much thinner that other women your age; did you lose weight?; you want to BE like that?, etc. Of course now I have quite a bit of fat on my belly and I get crap comments on that too,
    To all the skinny girls (and boys) out there: try working out with weights and eating healthy food. You don`t need to gain fat, you will look better if you gain muscle. Good luck to all of you.

  20. anonymous
    Posted March 28, 2008 at 7:06 pm | Permalink

    1. Many, many, many MEN love and desire small, skinny, thin women. Please don’t forget this.
    2. American people are the fattest persons in the world. American Size 0 is Size 4 in Great Britan (and even bigger sizes in other countries). American “normal” people mean “fat” people in most other countries of the world. When i look at them, i really get turned off.
    3. Please have a look at Asia or India or Brazil: There the majority of people is slim. And this is perfectly normal – not those american fat-bags.

    So keep spirits up: You are normal, not those fatties …

  21. tammy
    Posted April 7, 2008 at 6:15 am | Permalink

    Why are you bitches so upset about being skinny? Skinny is the best thing in the world. Skinny will get you anywhere.

    Let me tell you, I’m 5’3.5″ and 90 lbs. I know I could definitely afford to be skinnier. If I was as skinny as you girls, I would be so happy. Instead, I’m stuck with my fat stomach (unfortunately, i love a beer or two) and fat legs, and, unfortunately, no boobs. I hate my body, I know everyone is always looking at me and judging that I’m not as fit as anyone else, and it sucks. You girls are so lucky to be skinny, so enjoy it!

  22. Tiffany
    Posted April 12, 2008 at 7:36 pm | Permalink

    Than god i found this website, seriously…. I am 21 and puerto rican, and in my culture, we are suppose to be thick women, i am honestly 5’2 about 98, and i hate going outside when it is warm. I don’t like wearing skirts, short sleeves shirts, anything thats exposing my arms and legs, since i live in nyc, there are alot of people who are full figure, and everyone judges me all the time, on the subway… walking down the street in downtown manhattan, sometimes, i avoid going to certain places like the beaches so i wont have to wear anything that would show off my body. I love this website! because now i know theres alot of women just like me.

  23. aapw821
    Posted April 22, 2008 at 4:45 pm | Permalink

    Tiffany, I know what you mean!!

  24. Posted April 22, 2008 at 8:01 pm | Permalink

    Hi Tiffany, Thanks for your visit to my website. I know what you’re talking about. There are definitely a lot of women like you out there! :-) Thanks for sharing your story here too!

  25. maritza
    Posted April 24, 2008 at 6:16 pm | Permalink

    reading all those coments made me feel better. I’m at the border of loseing my head!! I hate being sooo thin…

  26. Janki
    Posted April 26, 2008 at 6:20 pm | Permalink

    wow. I’m so happy I found this website! It’s a great thing to know that I’m not alone. But at school, I’m constantly teased for being “chicken legged”. I’m a vegetarian and I explain that, but they don’t understand! Due to religion reasons, I can’t eat cows. I can eat chicken but, I feel so gross and ashamed thinking about it. My only option is to probably – love myself, which is really hard for me to do; or to gain mad amounts of calf muscle. How do I do that? Wouldn’t that make me skinner and bonier, because I don’t eat meat?

    Any reply would be fabulous.
    Thanks so much =]

  27. Posted April 27, 2008 at 1:59 am | Permalink

    Dear Janki!
    Thanks for visiting my website. You’re definitely not alone! I know what it’s like to constantly being teased and reminded of the fact that you’re different than everybody else. And even though that might bring you down, it should be something you have to be proud of: you are unique! There’s no one in this world like you – so be proud of yourself!
    Your decision to be a vegetarian is very brave and courageous. I think it shows character and you should be very proud of that.
    Don’t try to be anyone else but you. If you feel better after you work out to gain muscle, you should do that. If it makes you feel horrible – don’t do it.
    All that matters is that you’re healthy and that starts with accepting and loving who you are. You are beautiful the way you are!

  28. suzy
    Posted April 28, 2008 at 2:00 pm | Permalink

    This website is wonderful! I believe though I am probably xxxxxx-small compared to every one else. I am x-short at 5’1 and xxxx-NATURALLY skinny at 88-90 lbs. I have no medical poblems confimed by my doctor. I am just naturally short and skinny and feel like I always have to defend my self of this. I get all kinds of comments daily and often go home upset and crying because I hate people looking at my body and commenting. I am also 28 years old. Most of the time I find only teenage girls are very thin and short and as they age fill out more. I haven’t….I feel like I will always be in a childs body. I am also caucasian… I am of no nationality of people known to be smaller. I am so depressed and people make me feel so horrible and when I explain my feelings to people…they do not understand why I take comments so harsh. Normal people or people with an obvious flaw…..people would not say anything because it may hurt that person but no one ever thinks twice to comment on my height, age, and weight. I feel I am constantly picked apart by people. Sometimes I when people say things to me I want to tell them they are fat or have a big nose or are ugly….something that will hurt them and make them feel bad…..why should I be the only one going through every day getting hurt by people’s comments. Now with all this new “real women have curves” and “men don’t like skinny women”. I feel even worse about myself.

  29. maritza
    Posted April 29, 2008 at 5:40 pm | Permalink

    Suzy, hi my name is Maritza and I feel just like you… I just can’t understand this world… But its sooo nice to not be alone, know I know there are so many other women out there like me… I’m 26 5’2 and weighing at about 94…. I hate it!!! We must do something to stop being depressed!! Anything I buy my self looks ugly on me! why, why, why? take care girl, and remember bottoms up!!

  30. maritza
    Posted April 29, 2008 at 5:44 pm | Permalink

    Dear Extrasmall,
    I can’t seem to find any jeans that look good on me… do you know of any jeans that are made for extrasmall people? I mean thin? any advice would really help… thanx… =)

  31. Posted April 29, 2008 at 8:06 pm | Permalink

    hi Maritza!
    I know it can be challenging to find good fitting jeans. If you’re skinny, lighter color jeans will look better – they will make you appear fuller. Darker jeans will make you look skinnnier. I can recommend a white or light blue pair of jeans. And be proud, not a lot of women can wear these colors and look beautiful in it!

    Clothes from different stores can fit very different. According to the poll on this website, a lot of skinny girls find well fitting clothes at Aeropostale. Do you have one in your neighborhood? If not, Hollister or H&M have jeans for girls like you and I.
    I usually pick the low-cut jean because it sits better on my butt and it just looks better than jeans that sit higher on my hips.
    I’m from Europe, and I always bought jeans from the brand “Miss Sixty” in size 26 or 27. I know that they sell the brand at certain stores here as well, you might want to look for them because they’re comfy and fit extremely well!
    I hope this helped! :-)

  32. maritza
    Posted April 30, 2008 at 1:06 am | Permalink

    Thanxs so much Extrasmall!! I went to Aeropostale and got my self some cut shirts… the jeans where just not my size, I have to keep looking maybe i’ll get luck some day… I’m going to try and see who sells “miss Sixty” jeans down here in San Diego… Take care and thanxs once again for your help… =)

  33. ss
    Posted May 1, 2008 at 7:51 pm | Permalink

    It hurts to be called too thin, as much as it hurts to be called over-weight. Somewhere in the media, calling bigger women “big” is politically incorrect. No one stopped for a moment to think how calling a smaller woman “too thin” hurts probably just as much. I’ve never been so ridiculed in my life for taking charge of my health. I feel segregated at times when I say no to the pasta on the table, and prefer to eat a delicious piece of turkey breast with a fresh salad. And what? I dont want pop for dinner? How dare I drink water!

    ….The story starts here….

    Health issues forced me to take charge of my life. I was always a slimmer girl with a bit of pudge, but most certainly not enough to call myself fat. Over the years Ive become intolerant to wheat and dairy — which is basically where I derived my weight gain sources from: cheese, bread, milk, whey shakes — you get the point. I eat a well balanced acid/alkaline diet now, only healthy complex carbs, high GOOD fats and always half raw. It was obvious that I was going to lose the extra fat that I had — but I lost a lot more than i Bargained for, especially on my upper body.

    Lately I’ve become very self conscious of my upper body, especially my shoulders and back. I hate seeing my bones..ugh. I’ve upped my caloric intake and I seem to eat constantly and I’ve so far put on maybe a couple more pounds, but nothing to brag about. Also the pounds went on my lower body, which is where i gain weight first.

    After months and months of repeating this trend, my upper body still was not changing shape. It was then i realized that many I should stop forcing my body to gain weight. Maybe its time that I sculpt what I already have. And that thought brought me up to my new regime.

    High good fat, high protein, still lots of food because i love to eat, and mucho MUCHO upper body weight training. Im tired of feeling like I have to be chubby again to feel sexy. I think this is my body’s way of telling me that its comfortable where it is (fat wise) and now I have to work on the muscle building part (which I always lacked in).

    Through all off this, however, I rather be thin that overweight, because I know that I am healthy. Health comes first, appearance comes after. I hope that you ladies out there, thin and insecure realize that you are already 1 step ahead of those who are trying to lean up and look great. Work on those muscles, and get that shape that you want. If ladies are already jealous, then watch out when you tone up a little more ;)

    Be happy with who you are, and know in your heart that you are healthy and your body knows what’s best. Dont let the ladies of the media make you feel like you have an eating disorder because you dont wear a size 10.

    VIVA size 0!!!!!

  34. peanutbutterlover
    Posted May 28, 2008 at 9:08 pm | Permalink

    I’m SO happy that i started my blog here cause when i started browsing i found this site and i’m in love with it. so firstly – THANKS HEAPS FOR CREATYING IT :D:D:D

    Ok, well as you all might’ve guessed – I’m in the same boat as you guys : check this page on my blog btw to see my comments on being skinny

    Anyway, I don’t use the scales mcuh at all – it’s out of battieries anyway – but the last time i stepped on it i was 47kg (about 103 pounds?) and i’m 166cmc (about 5’5). I live in australia so yea, we use the metric system :D

    I’ve felt the pressure for a long time (before) of having to gain weight and eat more (i already have a quite generous appetite already!) , and I was already eating quite high calorie/unhealthy food. im still eating like that but DEF not for the purpose to gain weight anymore – I eat it cause i like it (hence my username and blog!!)

    I’ve gone through periods of anxiety before at school when the kids always stared and picked on me for being skinny -esp the girls. words cant describe how bad it felt when people start staring at you and throw comments.. I PERSONALLY don’t think i look anorexic at all. i’m just skinny/slim. (a picture of me is on the link at the top to one of my pages)

    I’ve met more skinny people like myself at uni and it feels great to give each others support and share our experiences :) I feel so much better now (EVEN BETTER after finding this blog!!) and i’m happy with the way my body is :)

    I love getting to know new people so feel free to send me a message or post in my blog if you wany :)

  35. jmugirl11
    Posted June 27, 2008 at 9:26 pm | Permalink

    wow. i’m not alone, such great news!!!lol. I’ve always been super skinny and now at 19, i’m about 5’4 and only 93? lbs.I hate it. i eat tons and, but i never gain. at school i exercise a lot b/c im involved in a sport, which i guess mite make it even harder, but ive always been like this. noone gets it and i know a few people who probably thought i was anorexic or underfed or something when in reality thats quite the opposite lol. i look like i’m 13-14 which is hard in college considering the social life. i’ve neverreally been seriously made fun of, but i have endured many comments about my weight my whole life. and finding good clothes can really be a challenge sometimes, especially jeans!! i think i finally made it outta 00, which most people dont even knoe exist!! and with all the media trying to make overweight people feel better by saying “noone likes super-skinny girls neways,etc..” it makes it worse. i ws hoping for the freshman 15, but it didnt quite work! although, my stomach isnt completely flt nemore. i dont have a problem showing off my body, i just wish i wasnt quite soo skinny!

  36. anonymous
    Posted June 29, 2008 at 6:29 pm | Permalink

    Ever since I was young I have always been critisized about my weight. Everyone always said I needed to eat more. But the truth is, I do eat. And I eat a lot. I am very short and very skinny so that leaves a lot of room for people to critisize me. I am 4′ 11″ and I weigh 92 pounds. Excercise has helped me reach gain a little bit of muscle and that makes me feel better about myself. I used to weigh 85 before I started working out. So I encourage all of you who want to put on some weight, to put on muscle weight with resistance excersises. It really helps to give you more of a shape. Also, right before you excersise, eat a lot of protein and it will help the muscle build faster.

  37. Allison
    Posted July 14, 2008 at 9:03 pm | Permalink

    Hi fellow skinnies!

    Weighing in at 90 lbs, and standing at 5’4…I present to you a normal, healthy 18-year-old!

    I’m very glad I found this site; I knew I couldn’t be the only skinny person left in America! I agree with the person that mentioned the American version of “average-sized” being a little twisted to fit the overweight population. I’m supposed to weigh at least 115 lbs to be considered “healthy” by the American BMI standards, but hold on!

    I’ve been teased since I can remember. In recent years I’ve been less active than usual and lost muscle (excercise DOES help girls; I kayaked and swam and it really toned my slender frame) so the teasing has been worse. I’ve actually had a teacher accuse me of being anorexic, and well, what can be expected of high school students? What I can’t understand is why it’s okay to say “you need to gain weight” or “toothpick” to a skinny person but not remark to obese people that they’re likely to contract diabetes any given minute. Hmmm?

    I’ve never had health problems because of my weight. I’ve had a regular period since my pre-teens and checked out perfect at the doctors every time. I’m graduating cum laude, have a job, and a steady boyfriend who, like myself, is considered “underfed” by society’s standards. We love each others slim bodies and he adores the look of my small breasts. There are guys that actually appreciate those ladies, don’t let them slip to the dark side because you’re too afraid to let your skinniness shine!

    The only problem I’ve ever had with my weight is the rudeness of others. I’ve heard it from young and old, men and women… I still have trouble appreciating myself sometimes, I won’t lie, but please know that you and I are beautiful and as MUCH OF A GORGEOUS WOMAN as anybody!

  38. Anastasia
    Posted July 15, 2008 at 3:47 pm | Permalink

    I cried at night for two weeks because i was sick of being skinny. People have told me that their first impression of me is that i’m anorexic. That hurts a lot. Sometimes I don’t eat enough because my mom loses her job. Usually during winters. It is very stressful. I’m also naturally skinny, and i have to eat incredibly to gain weight of a normal person. I have tried eating junkfood to gain weight and almost made myself sick. Nobody understands.

  39. donna
    Posted July 17, 2008 at 7:14 am | Permalink

    im feelin all yall, get a boob job and be happy ! Its a blessing! There anit nothin like a extra skinny woman w/ big boobs! trust me! Go to the hair salon and get your hair did, sum color that enhances your skin tone, find the right makeup shade, estee lauder double wear is awesome, always remember less is more and keep it simple, in everything. And learn how to work it girls! Life is short! Embrace yourself! Celebrate yourself! You are just as valuable as anyone else in this world! And if anyone is ever all up in your kool-aid , BELIEVE ME! its because they have issues w/ their own self and they dont like the way they look! Trust me!!!! The next time pick out something about them and bring out and open loud into the world, they’ll shut up and leave you alone trust me!!!! ive always been skinny and still am, am im kinda diggin it!!!!!!!

  40. Kim (a guy, not a girl)
    Posted July 17, 2008 at 8:33 am | Permalink

    It saddens me to hear about women who feel their breasts are too small. I am a healthy, normal guy and I lust for small breasted women. I think they are so much more attractive than the “bovine” look… please be proud of what you have, and know that there is a large segment of the population that prefers tiny boobs… Nothing is less attractive than a woman whose breasts look like the bumper on a ’57 Buick.

  41. Posted July 24, 2008 at 12:04 am | Permalink

    hello to all petite girls out there! I’m so glad I found this page. Woot woot!!! Thank you Extrasmall ;-)
    I wrote an entry a while back about being naturally skinny AND healthy. It’s looong so I’ll just paste the link here:

    “A long time ago I’ve learned to stop telling others, except my family & closest friends, about my struggle to put on some weight and KEEP IT ON, in a healthy way. How naive was I, thinking I’d get some sympathy? Instead all I got was the “You’ve gotta be kidding me” look, the one that seemed to say “Shut up you pompous twit, thousands of people are trying to lose that spare tyre around their waists and and here you are, whinging about being skinny“. But the truth is, people, just because my problem isn’t a common one, that doesn’t make it any less of a problem. If anything, it’s a tougher issue for slender girls because we get almost no support, be it physical or emotional, from others. Has anyone ever seen an ad promoting a weight gain scheme nowadays? I didn’t think so.”

  42. Posted July 29, 2008 at 8:22 am | Permalink

    yes its true amyha, and the problem is, ppl always say we should just ‘get over it’, whether theyre jealous or not, BUT the reality is that HOW CAN PPL just simply GET OVER it if comments are thrown at you 24/7?? yea right, its not that simple and it aint pretty either

    i just wish pp lwould just accept us and stop judging us.. not all skinny ppl are anorexic. its so annoying. even if im really good at blocking all these negative stuff out it still bothers me at times.

    Anyway, thanks for writing up yyour thoughts ;)

  43. Lisa Rhodes
    Posted August 5, 2008 at 1:40 am | Permalink

    I would like to thank all you young ladies who talk on this site and I am saving it on my favorites for my daughter Connie. Connie is 4’11′ and wieghts 66lbs. Everyday she indures “are you sick… does your mom feed you… your sooo skinny you look gross” Now mind you my daughter is funny, smaert and strong. So, she takes most with a grain of salt… however, she doesn’t like people very much. She does know she is beautiful and that while she is skinny, she is in perfect health and has the most amazing abs. She hates to shopp because even kids cloths are huge! We have found Wet Seal 00 skinny jeans and they fit! But shoes are the same propblem as she wears a 5 AAA. No stores even care 5AAA and only a few styles can be ordered.
    I am proud because even though she is thin she eat very healthy. She told me that even at 14 pure fat foods would take her at a great risk of heart diease when she is older. She eats every 2 hours… but only food that is non processed and is organic. She told me it isn’t worth fitting in if it ment compromising her health. Even as strong as she is I know some days and some comments hurt her feeling. I know that cloths shopping is a painful reminder of how she isnt Normal.
    My other complaint as a mother is that if Connie calls someone fat she is bullying others… but everyone can call her skinny and make fun of her and no one sees the problem with it. Seems like a double standard. Why does the world hate skinny girls?

    Thanks again ladies
    Mom of a Natureal size 00

  44. mist
    Posted August 5, 2008 at 9:42 pm | Permalink

    Lisa! it’s great gto hear a mother supporting their daughter with this, cause my mom doesn’t really care too much about it – she just told me to brush it off etc. You def should cont. supporting her – it’s very important.

    I eat like every 2 hours too, or just whenever im hungry, and i think it’s erfevtly normal , as long as there’s no sick feeling or anything

    keep rockin!

  45. Amy
    Posted August 29, 2008 at 8:38 pm | Permalink

    gosh like many of the people have said i thought i was the only one !! okay so i am only 13 and iv been told i’ll fill out but its sooo hard trying to find school trousers for an e.g i’ve tried endlessly to find a pair i think i might go to school naked !! i have tried EVERYWHERE ! they look okay but when i try them on ekk they are like bin bag liners !! its just imposible ! i am also the smallest and skinnyest in my year too its soo anoying when people go god your soo skinny do you ever eat ! do i eat ?? only drunk food most of the time but i eat a lot !! i know size 0 is wrong but some people are just born and ment to be skinny but notice how only few shops do things for the skinny and small but more shops do more taller and bigger sizes i think people should be happy in what ever shape they are im not saying that everyone shouldnt eat or eat loads but i would be soo nice to have something that covers everyones size and shape i have my days were i hate my match stick like arms but you just gotta love what your born with x

  46. MD
    Posted September 14, 2008 at 10:56 pm | Permalink

    My story:

    Im 19, and in the limelight in the country I live in… I absolutely feel disgusted at my body when I look in the mirror, and have been trying to gain weight for a while. I hope this site will help change my view – cos its getting outta hand on my part. I went for breast surgery last july, and am going for a redo next week… my hips and butt are the ugliest things I’ve ever seen, and the comments I have received from people are… well you all know wat theyr like… comments delivered with a smile… cos apparently when ur skinny, nothing hurts? i dont know… people have this warped idea that they can call us flat, stick-like, anorexic-looking… and get away with it… heck i even get comments from close people… about being afraid that they’ll break my bones… and u wonder why humans can be so dumb and tactless… i look all around me and i see how there’s this so-called “beauty revolution”, how thin isnt in anymore, “we want REAL women”, that sorta thing… but what about us…? what about us, the ones who are hated on by those who WANT our figures, and those who find our figures disgusting… what about us? if an encyclopedia tells me as a young girl that i am MEANT to get hips, that my breasts are meant to SHOW… how do i feel when im 19 and look like a 10 yr old boy? how do i feel reading “men’s opinions” in those big cosmo polls, where apparently most men despise the kate moss type figure, and prefer meat…? how do i feel when a lot of movies, music videos, and mags simply describe “woman” as CURVES and MEAT? how i feel, is no doubt how you all feel. Except I had a spot in the limelight at one point, as a singer and model… and its tough when everyone looks at how u look with a negative attitude… as if ur a lepur… its tough, but ihope we’ll all get thru it… xx

  47. Kathleen Roderick
    Posted September 23, 2008 at 4:43 am | Permalink

    I am 5’9″ tall and weigh 122 lbs I have always been thin and up until about 3 years ago I weighed 110 for most of my life. Yes the teasing is awful. People always comment on my weight, and tell me I am skinny. They take more liberties with thin people on thier comments. No one would ever walk up to an overweight person and say “Gee you’er so fat” But they don’t hesitate when it comes to thin people. I am healthy and toned and I am 52 years old. No one knows it cause I look great! I love my class reunions. All those gals that teased me are the fat ones now! Now they are jealous! I love skinny!

  48. Ellen
    Posted October 1, 2008 at 12:36 pm | Permalink

    Hello, I’m Ellen, 18 years old and I’m from Belgium..
    Thank God for this website I found, Cuz I thought I was the only one with this skinny problem. I hope someone can help me or give me some good advice..I really don’t like being skinny, I eat so much every hour, I tried shakes,..I tried everything, i’m still eating like a freak but I can’t gain any weight , I really want to accept the fact that I’m skinny and probably never have a dream figure like JLO or Fergie..Can anyone give me some advice cuz I don’t know how to accept my body and I really want to learn to love myself..Hope someone answers..x
    Greetz from a skinny belgian girl

  49. Meghan
    Posted October 1, 2008 at 3:34 pm | Permalink

    Hello, I am a 26 year old, 5 “3 small framed blonde girl who has weighed about 100 lbs for as long as I can remember. I have always been active and for the longest time I never really gave thought to being skinny. People would grab my wrists and say how disgusting and fragile they were, or they would look at me funny if I said I was interested in going on an 8 hr hike or doing some other activity that would take strength and endurance. I never really let myself care. I love nature and I love being active! However, I am a women now and I am getting tired or maybe I am just more sensitive to being picked on for being skinny. I can’t believe it, but I’m starting to doubt myself and my ability to do things where I never had before. I find myself thinking, maybe their right? maybe I am too weak to do activity “x”. I hate it. I know it’s not true but it’s HARD SOMETIMES. I’m a women, a small one yes, but an active and healthy women. I don’t like feeling like some freak in a child’s body. Being called anorexic was the most insulting thing I’ve ever had to endure. But you know what? My body IS who I am and overall I wouldn’t change it for the world. Skinny girls will always have to endure insults but it can make you stronger, make you better if you find a way to laugh at it all and know that you are healthy and capable of doing whatever you wish.

  50. Launa32
    Posted October 13, 2008 at 12:37 am | Permalink

    Even though im only 15 i do know what it feels like 2 be tonted and laughed at. Im a High School j.v cheerleader and even though im a cheerleader i get asked alot if i have an eating disorter and people ALWAYS try to measure my wrist. Like people say i have a realy pretty and have a nice face, but im still tall, skinny, and my arms are long and thin. It was cute like in the 4th-5th grade, but when i got in to junior and high skool i got alot of crap and people just asume dont eat. And i always tell them IM NAURALLY SKINNY…i dont want these big boobs or big but i just dont want 2 be this skinny, im 5’5 and like 95 pounds.

  51. Cassidy
    Posted October 25, 2008 at 2:55 pm | Permalink

    Hello. I’m 15 years old, about 5”3 and weigh about 88 pounds. I’ve always have gotten comments on house skinny I am, even though everyone knows that I’m just naturally thin, My mom and dad we always skinny, and my younger siblings are skinny as well. People are always grabbing my wrists and talking about how I “need to gain weight” when they clearly know that I’ve been trying for a long time. I’ve definitely given up on turning to high-fat foods to gain weight, now I’m just eating a lot of protein power bars and drinks. I also try to lift weights for my arms. I’m a ballet dancer so there is some girls there as thin as me. I find myself getting obsessed with my weight and how I look, and envy all of my friends with the boobs and butts. The only thing I really have to bring my self-esteem up is my face, but now a days I don’t even think of myself as pretty anymore because the comments on my skinniness overpowers the good things.

    I guess I still have a little hope for getting bigger. I also love not having to wear a bra in my shirts and have it look cute. I just need to find some good stores that are made especially for petite girls like me. I’m so happy I’m reading some blogs from girls who have the same issue as me.

  52. ToNi
    Posted October 25, 2008 at 3:41 pm | Permalink

    It’s Great To Know Im Not Alone!! All The Advise (Especially The Fashion) Has Helped Me Sooo Much! If Only There Was Someting Like This In London! Well Basically Im 16 – 17 In November And Im Skinny!!! Im About 5’4 and weigh Just About 8st. Everywhere I Go I Get So Much Grief About How Skinny I Am And Im Fe Up Of It! Ive Started To Hate My Body, I Look In The Mirror And See Bones! My Thighs Don’t Even Touch And My Legs Are Kinda Bowed Which Makes It Look Even Worse! I Don’t Wear Skirts Or Dresses Because Of How Bad My Legs Look In Them. I Never Take My Jacket Off In School To Try And Cover Up My Lack Of Meat! Itz Tiring And Im Tired Of Crying Over It!

    The Worst Thing Is, Because Im Black Theres This Expectation That I Should Have A Big Butt And Hips And Thick Thighs – Which Is Exactly What My Two Best Friends Have – But I Dont. And I Cant Even Talk To Them About It Because They Just Dont Understand! People Need To Stop Makin Stupid Comments About Using My Legs For Toothpicks And About Me Not Having The Figure Of A Black Girl And Just Leave Me Be!

    I’ve Bin Bulk Eating For The Last Week And Although I Put On Lyk 2 Pounds, I Feel My Heart Slowing Down!! I Cant Keep Doing It And Im Not Even Getting Any Fatter. I Dont Kno Wat Its Like In America But I Live In South London, Home Of The Full Figured Light Skinned Girls And I Just Dont Fit. Boys Dont Like Me And It Hurts. Im Not That Pretty But Ive Seen Way Uglier Girls Than Me Get A Man Just Coz They Have A Huge Batty Or Have Nice Curvy Figures! What To Do??? No-One Understands :(

    But Thanks Again For Giving Me A Place To Vent Along With People Like Maself… You Have No Idea How Much You’ve Done – You’ve Made Me Realise Im NOT ALONE!!! Thanks And Hopefully One Day I’ll Have Enough Confidence In My Naturally Skinny Self!!!

  53. emily
    Posted October 25, 2008 at 9:15 pm | Permalink

    ive been skinny my whole life..skinny and tall…my mom and my aunts all tell me they wish they were my size…blablah i should be a model blablah…but then just mom was watching me and shes like..i was just telling your sister…i wish i had your body ..then my sister was like….i dont…and it really hurt, cause sometimes i look up to my sister and she hurt my feelings…..but this isnt the first time ive gotten comments….my friends that ive known forever….know that i wish i was fat..and if i dont eat like lunch or somthing….theyll like joke about it and be like….anorexic…and i used to hear girls at school…walk by and say under there breathe,.omg shes so skinny…and i would just hear it and walk away fighting off the urge to yell back.

  54. Sara
    Posted October 26, 2008 at 10:57 pm | Permalink

    I was just searching on websites about naturally under weight people and found this one! This is very nice to know that there are actually many people like myself. I’m 22.. I’ve had a child.. and I am around 92 lbs 5’2 1/2. I did weigh near 97 lbs earlier this year but I was very active during the summer because of the nice weather. I lose weight so easily and it really sucks because it’s considered “unhealthy” to be underweight. If it wasn’t for that I would be content. But according to tests I am healthy so that is a big relief. The comments get so old especially when that’s the first thing a person will say to you “wow you’re so skinny”. Skinny is such a gross word for it too. Thin is a better word and should be used more often. Nobody is saying “Oh look you’re fat” to overweight people. So we shouldn’t be called out for being thin!

  55. Posted October 28, 2008 at 12:01 pm | Permalink


    My name is Samantha and I live in Holland.
    I was reading the story of Toni, and I realize that we have the same problem over here. Black girls always need to have a big but and big boobs. Its terrible because if you are naturally skinny you can’t do a thing about it. I’m skinny too, well they say so.. First I didn’t feel skinny, but after a while people kept saying it, so I started to believe in it. I’m not looking skinny.. I am 1.72 long and my weith is 58,5 KG. But sometimes I do feel skinny. Even if I know it isn’t true, I doubt it because THEY say so. Sometimes I also try to eat more than I normally do. I love to eat, but sometimes I eat to much and then I also starting to feel unhealthy.
    Look, If your skinny becuase your not eating, then I understand that people call you skinny, but if you are healthy and eating normal than it’s terrible to be called skinny. Somebody at my work had the guts to ask if I was ill because I am so small.. I got mad at here.. not beacuse she said so, but because she didn’t know how much she hurted me with that question. You see she was fatt and I dind’t hurd here with that. I really cried that day, after when I got mad at here ofcorse.
    What I really wan’t to say is.. Skinny people please dont listen to others..they might be yalouse or trying to get you down. We are beautyfull nomather what they say..!!!

    Sincerly yours,


  56. Mary
    Posted November 10, 2008 at 11:37 pm | Permalink

    It’s nice to hear from the naturally skinny.

    All my life I have eaten massive amounts of food and remained a “normal” weight. I developed very unhealthy eating habits as a result. On the outside, I looked fine, but my family has a long history of heart disease, even though all of us are thin. It was terrible, I ate more than people I know who are obese. On a daily basis I’d eat whole pizzas and multiple family packs of chocolate and hydrogenated snack food that has probably done untold damage to my poor heart (consider that my grandfather had a heart attack at 38 years old). Not only my health suffered, my pocket book was strained and I had little left over to spend on anything. It all went to food.

    Recently, since I have taken drastic measures to overcome my addiction to food, my body has begun to shrink at an alarming rate. The people who actually have healthy eating habits in my family are stick thin. As such, I know I’m headed that way very soon and the suspicions of eating disorders will abound.

    Since I was 12 years old, I have suffered from these bingeing habits, so technically, I have never seen what my natural, adult body looks like. I’m 25 now. Imagine how weird this must feel. Seeing a complete stranger in the mirror. But that stranger, even though she is probably considered unhealthy by those around her, is healed from what was previously a lifestyle that would lead to her own death. My death.

    I’m not looking forward to this new form of criticism. People left me alone when I truly was was eating disordered simply because I looked “normal”. Now that I’ve finally broken free of those demons, and my body is transforming at an alarming speed, people are going to give me a hard time. No matter what, my mother in law is going to worry endlessly. It’s already begun since she saw me last. My friends, my whole extended family. My classmates at Uni. I read your testimonies and dread terribly what lies ahead of me. I’m on summer break now, when I return, my whole class is going to think I’ve fallen ill. None of my friends will be able to share my joy. My incredible sense of newfound freedom from the chains of being a food addict.

    I’m rambling, but it’s nice to find a place where I actually fit. I guess having people think your sick is better than actually being sick. I was so terrified of how I was heading straight into a premature death, and if not death, a long existence plagued by health problems. Being a normal weight is not always a sign of optimal health, especially not for me. It’s a red flag!

  57. Amelia
    Posted November 11, 2008 at 12:50 am | Permalink

    It’s great to hear theres other people out there . I definetly feel awkward about my body at the least. Im extremely self-conscious and obsessed with the fact that Im so skinny. I’m 5″10 ish (tall!) and weigh about 126 pounds. I have thought so many times I wish I wasn’t so skinny, or so tall for that matter. I dont want to be a model, Im not interested. I always think it looks way more fun to have curves, but I never gain weight. All my life Ive been so naturally skinny its crazy!! I eat as much as I want, which is great, but I still look like skin and bones. help anyone?

  58. Amelia
    Posted November 11, 2008 at 12:54 am | Permalink

    A continuation of that:
    Im 17 years old, and have never dated. I hate to think it might have something to do with being so thin.. and Ive thought that at times.

  59. lilgirl1
    Posted November 14, 2008 at 8:06 am | Permalink

    hey girls!! and some guys!!

    iv read moast of your stories, and they are all amazing – its great to know that other ppl are goring thru the same things , and great to both giv and receive support

    well with me, im not ‘stick’ thin or just bones, but im def skinny. also! i actually weigh MORE than i look. does this apply to anyone else too?? im 165 (5’5) cm tall and weigh 52 kgs (110 pounds i think) , but iut seriously looks like i weigh 45 – and thats also what most ppl say and they just get all shocked when i tell them my actual weight, some dongt even believe me but its true! i do think that if someone looks very skinny you would expect them to weigh lighter too – - but not with me! i dunno what it is, but i would assume that it would be muscle mass or just bone density etc?

    also! i eat quite a lot compared to others, i do avoid junk food and unhealthy food. i eat non processed food, but its still high in energy , you know like dried fruit, lots of nuts, grainy/seed bread, pastas etcetc , its def better for health yea. i actually get hungry like after 2 hr after an average meal, or sometimes even like just 1 hr after eating something and then i would go have a snack meal. AND i do get lotsa ppl commenting on my appetite considering that im skinny, it is a bit embarrassing sometimes lol! but i dunno im just always hungry, and i dont seem to be gaining any weight anyway. sometimes when my appetite is lower i lose weight quite easily actually if i dont keep up with the food

    i shouuuuuuld exercise more… im trying to maintain the 30 min or more per day, right now im not doing it everyday…… yea so i dont tend to exercise too much … what about you girls? skinny even without lotsa exercise? same here!

    its great seeing ppl supporting each other like this :D if anyone want to talk feel free drop me a message :D :D

  60. Brittney
    Posted November 14, 2008 at 11:47 pm | Permalink

    Okay, I have like the lowest self esteem ever. Ive been bullied/teased since I was barely in the 3rd grade. Its so sad that I cant remember the 1st time I got teast ffor being so skinny. I am 5’8″-5’9″ and weigh maybe 107-108, if that,. I am NATURALLY thin. But it doesnt stop there. LET ME TELL YOU THE MOST DEVASTATING PART OF BEING TEASED BECAUSE OF BEING NATURALLY THIN: I was teased SO much and negatively commented by my friends and bullies that I DON’T EAT AS MUCH as I used to. I know I am heading in the wrong direction, but my faith and self-esteem is so messed up that i am not emotionally in the stage to change it. Maybe it will, but I am still bullied/teased today. I am in the 11th grade and just recently (like thursday) this boy thought it was funny to ask if i weight under 100 pounds infront of the class, I was so embarrased and ASHAMED OF MYSELF, that i sat there and said nothing and everyone laughed at me. My life is going down hill. WHAT I AM TRYING TO TELL YOU IS: Naturally skinny women are PERFECT. Every other size wants to be you. I had my stupid friends pick on my and then say that they are jealous that I am this thin. I love my body. I love LITERALLY BEING THE Tallest/thinnest girl at my school!!!!!! I mean there are other tall girls, but they are petite and fat. EMAIL me at if you need to talk out all of your problems and need advice. I love giving advice and you can tell me whatever, because it’s not liek something I’ve never heard of or been through=). It’s nice having someone to relate to=)

  61. Rachel
    Posted December 15, 2008 at 11:09 pm | Permalink

    I am so happy I found this website. I am naturally thin and have been so all my life and feel so alone. I have cried countless times over the people who think I am anorexic and the fact that I can’t put on any weight. It is horrible how much I’ve suffered from being thin.

  62. Chana
    Posted December 27, 2008 at 1:57 am | Permalink

    So glad to see this website. I am a 29 year old female, and have been super skinny my whole life. My parents are both exceptionally thin and used to joke when my mom was pregnant that they were having a spider monkey. Well, that turned out true enough — I am 5’8″ and my weight naturally settles around 95 pounds! I, too, have found that eating extra calories hardly helps, and that the only way to gain healthy weight is to put time into lifting weights at the gym (at my best, I was around 110 pounds and felt VERY good both physically and mentally because of it). I finally had a basal metabolic rate test and found that my metabolism runs around 115% faster than predicted. There’s just nothing a person can do about that, now is there? Like others, I have endured a lifetime of “stick figure” comments and accusations of anorexia. I’m happy to see a community like this where naturally skinny girls (and guys) can give and receive encouragement.

  63. Fiona
    Posted December 30, 2008 at 12:47 am | Permalink

    hey it has taken me till now at 19 to accept my body. when i was a scrawny 10 year old i thought i was very different to others because people told me i was. my mam and dad, the doctor, my ´mormal´ sisters. it was very depressing! i think the main things that upset me was wondering why i looked different, not wearing bras at the start of secondary school like alot of the girls, and people always thinking that i was younger than i was. as a teen i didn´t feel very feminine or sexy. but anyway i eventually grew taller and put on some small curves. i´m happier than i was then, which is a nice feeling. this year i met a lad my age and his acceptance has definetly had a part in boosting my confidence. 3 of my friends are also skinny so that is nice too because we can go shopping or discuss girly things while being on the same page. i dont mind getting attention for something i proud of, but when it is something like my weight when i was younger it´s an awful feeling, because you are not trying to highlight it at all. anway go skinny girls!!!! x x x

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  65. Carlisy
    Posted March 5, 2009 at 3:11 am | Permalink

    Jeesh, i feel much better too lol!Thank god there are more people like me out there. I’m 15, i’m 5’7 and im only 108lbs. I’m so skinny. I never let my emotions show, so when people are like oh my gosh your so skinny, im like well not my fault i probably eat more than you, never gain 0.5 pounds! NEVER! And if i do, i loose it in about an hour. I’m always comparing myself to other skinny people, i dont know why. lol. But i always tell my best friend “ohmy god am i that skinny, are my legs that skinny”. My mom & friends always tell me that Im skinny but well proportioned. I do have a bit fatter legs for my weight, but i want to gain weight sooo badly. UGH! It’s so frustrating.!! =), =(

  66. shygirl1995
    Posted March 15, 2009 at 2:18 am | Permalink

    i tried every thing eating more exterciin but notting am so tired next year am statrting high school and i lll still feel bad about beeing skinning i have a lot of pretty not shinny just perfect girl friends i want to be like them ievery boby just say i got it adceppt it but i cant i cant i tryied but cant there has to be a way in my heart i still hpe there is a way

  67. Babette
    Posted March 27, 2009 at 2:54 pm | Permalink

    I’m not very good in English but:
    Before I read this I thought that I was the onlyone who has this problem. It’s so strange to see that, how I think about being skinny, myself and other people is just the same as you do. That’s why I think this is such a wonderful website. People can support eachother and it’s very good that you know that you’re not the only one.
    People call me : anorexia, or say that I look like a clown (because I also have size 41 (europe),
    I am not very confident about myself.
    But I hope that this website will help me to feel a bit more confident.

  68. Johanne
    Posted April 10, 2009 at 6:39 pm | Permalink

    Hello everyone!

    well, like everybody here I always have been quite skinny all my life. As a child, I was constantly teased. I was not only scrawny but also tall so I was looking even skinnier. My sister was chubby and used to call me Johanorexic and everybody was bursting out laughing. I’m now in my thirties and I’m still a bag of bones. Glad to know that there is people like me in the world…


  69. me
    Posted May 21, 2009 at 9:51 am | Permalink

    when people tell me how skinny i am, i just tell them im not skinny and its not nice to tell someone that they r skinny, its like i simply make a comment about u, being fat! and they shut up right there

  70. Erika
    Posted June 6, 2009 at 6:00 pm | Permalink

    WOW! It makes me feel a lot better knowing that there are other skinny women who feel this way. I’ve always been really tall and thin(5’5/98 pounds). I’m in high school so I’m surrounded by guys who love the “giant-boobs-and butt porn star look”. I feel like I always have to defend my body size. Whenever I go out to eat, I feel like I have to eat MORE than I want to(and I eat A LOT) just so people won’t think I’m anorexic. I constantly hear things like “Real women have curves!” and “You look like a little boy, no man wants that!”, and a guy friend of mine recently told me “No man wants to cuddle something boney and hard…he wants a REAL woman who’s hip bones wont stab him during sex”.

    Women always talk about how they want to be skinny, but then turn around and make fun of the tall skinny runway models and talk about how “disgusting” they are…and I’m also half black, so all I EVER hear from the black side of my family is “Girl, you got black in you! You supposed to have a big butt and big boobs and be curvy! You’re daddy must be lying to us when he says you’re his must be adopted cuz you can’t be black!”.

    My self-esteem has gotten SO low. I can’t help but cry most nights because I hate my body, and I have a fast metabolism and skinny genetics, so there’s nothing I can really do about it. I feel so disgusting and ugly sometimes….I’ve even thought about getting breast implants/butt implants. I know I should accept the fact that I’m skinny, and that I shouldn’t listen to people who call me anorexic because I’m perfectly healthy…but I can’t help it :(

  71. slim lady
    Posted June 17, 2009 at 11:24 pm | Permalink

    I consider myself as a slim womam, I’m 18 and @ 5:4 my waight has been going up and down between 105 through 109 my family are reguraly small but the women in my family get the extra assets when they have atleast 2 baby and even when they burn off the waight(from high matabolism) they have the boobs and the butt (with unwanted stretch marks) I only have a slim body that has porportions that fit my body.

    I just sometime think of having big boobs will help my cloths look better on me but it will be hard to find “CUTE” clothes that will fit me(weird right) I feel that I just need confidence cause with that I will look beautiful with anything I wear. I feel that confidence is the secret to being beautiful and attracting men. Sell yourself. Cause I know that both sides (big boobs big butt want 2 be small withh a little less and vice versa) you just gotta. Be happy with yourself people that may have different preference will make foul comments but when you love the way you look it won’t matter what that person thinks. well put it point blank everyone wants what they don’t have when they get it there still unhappy.just find something to love about you. Be your own celebrity.

  72. Jen
    Posted July 21, 2009 at 12:28 am | Permalink

    i am so happy that you made this website i am 14 years old and im very tall but i only weight about 98 pounds. I get made fun at school people call me anerexic, balemic, chicken legs and all the time people just come up to me and say things like “you need to eat food” or “stop sticking a toothbrush down your throat everyday” and its really hurtfull. im really self conceous now like in a bathing suit or in tanktops also becuz i have no boobs i barely am a 32 nearly a, but im starting to learn to accept my body and not care what people think and your helping me do it thank you sooo much and im so glad im not alone

  73. Mollie
    Posted July 21, 2009 at 4:13 am | Permalink

    I literally cried when I found this website because I no longer felt so alone. I’m 16 and 105 pounds, 5 feet tall, bra size A. I’ve been small and short my entire life, and when I was a kid I didnt care. There were plenty of kids around the same size as me, and besides, what did I care, I was a kid. However, by high school I no longer felt this way. I HATE being short and flat and small. So many other girls have curves and boobs and are tall, meanwhile I look like a 12-year-old. So I spent a month gorging on food, but no matter how much I ate I didnt grow, up OR out. Instead I just felt sick all the time and forgot what it felt like to not have a stomachache. People are always comparing feet and hand sizes with me, because my feet/hands are also incredibly tiny, which they find hilarious. I just feel like I’m in elementary school again when people do that. I always felt so alone, because I had no one to complain about this to. My friends aren’t fat, but taller then me with breasts and normal sized feet and hands, and a normal height. So they never understood. And no one knew I’d spend nights crying because I was so unhappy, no guy would ever want to be with someone who looked so incredibly young. I am still small and short and craving a growth spurt more then ever before. EVERYONE sympathizes with people who feel overweight, but the underweight and short never get any sympathy, or any advice on how to gain weight. I’ve always thought I was a late bloomer, but now I fear I am a NO bloomer. Like all the other beautiful girls on this site, I would like nothing more then to grow, so I could at least come CLOSE to looking like a teenage girl, instead of a pre-teen work-in-progress.

  74. Arielle
    Posted July 22, 2009 at 12:56 am | Permalink

    Mollie, I almost completely understand what yu just said. Although I am tall, long and skinny with ok boobs, i never have anyone to tell them how i feel. Unfortunately for me i just keep getting taller and taller so my weight cant meet up with my height :(. There’s this thing called Scandi Shake that every glass is 600 calories.. This should help you get fatter and taller. Glad to meet people who understand :).

  75. Mollie
    Posted July 22, 2009 at 2:32 am | Permalink

    I’m glad you understand, I really am. I guess everyone feels “alone” in some sort of sense, whether they’re tall or short, thin or fat. Thanks for the shake recommendation, I’m going to check that out! :)

  76. Arielle
    Posted July 23, 2009 at 3:08 am | Permalink

    Yea. i hope more people find this site so they dont feel alone anymore

  77. A
    Posted August 13, 2009 at 11:08 pm | Permalink

    I do not even know where to begin with this one. I’m torn between making this a call to arms to change the rhetoric with which we discuss women’s bodies, or to focus more on my experiences as a very small-framed woman.

    Through my high school years, I was bullied and taunted, but the insults never involved any epithets about my body type. I never considered myself overly short or thin, even when sizing myself up to other girls. I remember dreaming of being tall and having large breasts before I went through puberty, but I was generally pretty happy with what I ended up with.

    Like every teenager who needs money, I found a job working retail, where the majority of the clientele and employees were middle-aged women. Not a single day went by without somebody making a negative comment about my size. The comments ranged from jesting to outright hateful and degrading, to patronizing in an attempt to bait me into spouting self-hatred. I never knew my body could elicit such passionate attacks. I went through a period of wearing excessively over-sized clothing to hide my form, to wearing the most revealing, skin-tight attire I owned to show that I do, indeed have a figure.

    Even though our bodies are as natural as women of other sizes, the media has created the vile mythos that petite women are nothing more than a product of eating disorders and drugs. The phrase ‘love your body’ does not apply to us. People who consider themselves the paragons of progressive thought cannot discuss the beauty and under representation of plus-sized women without slandering thin women in the same breath. There is nothing progressive about this thinking. You will see terms such as ‘womanly, voluptuous,’ and ‘curvy’ in contrast with ‘thin, skinny and waif-like.’ Until the day that women are no longer discussed in terms of their bodies will be the day I believe we are beginning to change the way we see them. And from the looks of things on this website, it seems like I am not the only thin woman who has been convinced that she is somehow less of a woman by such rhetoric.

    First of all, we are not skinny, stick-like, or twiggy. We are svelte, sylph-like, willowy, lithe, and slender. Secondly, ladies and gentleman, I weigh 95 pounds. And I am curvy. And so are you. I have yet to meet a woman whose figure measure 180 degrees on both sides. Why such a term has been reserved solely for large women is beyond me. There are just as many big women with straight figures as there are petite ones with straight figures. I have a perfect hourglass figure, and I used to bemoan my ‘lack of curves,’ but if it wasn’t for my tiny waist, I would not have such a figure. Somewhere, I’m sure this paradox is causing space/time to implode on itself. Indeed, I cannot find anything that fits me in the hops and waist, because designers seem to think that being a thin woman means you are shaped like a perfect tube.

    I have been accused of every eating disorder, called flat-chested when I have adequate breasts, and told at the dinner table that I must have a tapeworm. Since when are tapeworms viable discussion material at dinner time? Now, I see myself for what I am. I am a woman, I have curves, I am voluptuous, I am just miniature. I am above all of the ‘real women’ tripe peddled on TV and on the covers of magazines. But we all need to stop with the self-pity, and stand up for ourselves. Don’t back down, and let everyone know that we do exist, and we are as healthy as anyone else.

  78. Savannah
    Posted September 8, 2009 at 3:25 am | Permalink

    I am 17 and I have finally learned to accept my body the way it is – 108 lbs 5’6”. I remember in middle school always being so upset when everyone else was getiing curvy and shopping out of the popular clothing stores and I was still shopping at the kids stores. My dad would console me by saying that I would be grateful later in life for looking younger than everyone else.
    By tenth grade, I finally started to realize that I should take my size to my advantage. Whenever I started feeling down about my size I would ask myself, “What can i pull off that no one else can?”
    I realized that although I couldnt wear the same styles as some of the other girls, I could work a totally different style that worked to my body’s advantage. Shopping was fun again! This website rocks, and I am proud of my body. :)

  79. Amy
    Posted September 17, 2009 at 12:17 am | Permalink

    I feel like I’m not lonely anymore. I am 64 in. 85lbs and I just met someone who is exactly like me. No matter how much she eats, she won’t get heavier or taller.

    When I was in 2nd grade, I was taller and thinner than most of my friends. Now I feel too tiny and it’s almost like everyone I meet says I looked like I’m starved or something.

    Thanks soooo much for making this website!

  80. Sarah
    Posted September 17, 2009 at 8:06 pm | Permalink

    I am 16, 5’5″, and 94 lbs. Ever since middle school, everyone’s been calling me a twig. I went on a fat diet for about 3 weeks, and all I did was gain half a pound and my stomach hurt really bad. In the summer when I wear shorts, I feel scared to go out because everyone just stares at me like I have some sort of disease or something, but I know I’m healthy because I haven’t been sick in 2 years and my 20 year old brother gets sick at least twice a year. Now I am just going to eat normally and forget about everyone who calls me skinny cause I know I’m just perfect the way I am.

  81. Kara
    Posted September 29, 2009 at 10:40 pm | Permalink

    Hi all! My name is Kara and I am 5 ft tall and weigh 83 lbs. I am 31 yrs old, I am a small person and I love myself anyway. I use to hate people talking about my weight, but not any more. As I got older, I realized that god made me this way for a reason, so why gripe about it. I just want to tell all you teenagers who are tiny like me, that its not all bad and it will be ok. I also want to mention that not all guys hate little women. I have gotten some really good comments from guys who are 6 feet tall or more. The latest comment I got?
    ” You are a rock star!!” and from a cute country singing cowboy no less! So girls, keep your chins up and it will get better!!

  82. Candice
    Posted October 17, 2009 at 1:46 am | Permalink

    Hello everyone, im so glad i found you all! im 19 I weigh just about 90lbs, and im about 5’11. So im pretty small. Any time I see someone after about a week, the joke is hey did you get smaller. no i didnt! Also I wish people would stop asking me why im so short. Duh its genetics!. Anyways its just good to see other small people like me . sometimes its hard being small. I cant even reach my cabinets because theyre huge.

    thnx to all,

  83. Karen
    Posted November 2, 2009 at 9:06 pm | Permalink

    Thank goodness for this website! It’s been such a relief to read some of the stories and know I’m not the only one wishing and wishing I could be chunkier.
    I’m 40, 5′ 9″ tall and 9 and a half stone. My limbs are painfully thin, particularly my ankles and wrists. In fact, I’ve never met anyone with thinner ankles and wrists than me! Arghhh! I’ve had two (big) babies and now have a plump tummy with too much skin – great combo. If I had weight to lose elsewhere I could diet it away, but I don’t want to lose a single pound anywhere but on my tummy. I work out in a gym twice a week to maintain some muscle mass, which isn’t easy, but gives me a titchy bit of shape, I guess. Maybe one day I’ll be happy as I am…

  84. Kayla
    Posted November 25, 2009 at 4:32 am | Permalink

    I’m a college freshman, who’s always been shorter than everyone else (even kids who are younger are taller than me!), with 34A breasts, and thin arms (except during swim season). I’ve been told that I’m anorexic, that my butt is too flat, that my breasts are too small, and that I need to gain weight. At a strapping 117 lbs& 5’1.75 ft, I may seem huge, but my clothes were always too long and falling off of me. My jeans would always slide down my sad excuse for hips, and my shirts would be extra long, until I realized that even with my thick thighs (I’m African American), I was still a size 0. I’ve tried wearing stretch jeans, but those don’t work for me, no matter how small they are. I’m so glad I stumbled across this site!!! I never thought about shopping in Hollister or H&M. I thought hollister would be too preppy for me, and I was sure I was not sophisticated enough of a dresser to shop in H&M, but if it ends my clothing woes, I’ll do it!!! It’s also so good hearing that men in the United States like small breasts, because my ex boyfriend, who I was with for 10 months, always wished for my breasts to be bigger, and my butt not to be so flat…eventually he got fed up with my body&left me for a 16 year old with size C breasts….I felt inadequate, as if my small assets made me less of a woman….and the fact that younger females were curvier and taller than me made me feel like a child…as of now I consider myself a late bloomer, but even if I don’t grow any bigger, I don’t mind, because this site showed me that I’m not alone, and that all of the skinny women out there are beautiful, no matter what anyone (male or female) says!

  85. Mallary
    Posted December 8, 2009 at 7:19 am | Permalink

    I started absolutely bawling when I found this site! I live in a very, very small town…and am pretty much the ONLY petite girl here. The amount of hatred and negativity I face on a daily basis is absolutely draining…even from so-called friends, and my own family!

    My nick-name? Mal-nutrition. Everytime somebody calls me that, I nearly cry. I can’t say ANYTHING without it being turned into a hateful skinny joke!!! Why is this considered okay? I have NEVER called anybody fat….shouldn’t it be common sense that you shouldn’t EVER make fun of someones weight?

    I’m 5’5″, 103 lb, with a size 32D bra. I am a freak of nature, and EVERYONE feels the need to make sure I never forget that. “The skinny girl with the big tits” was how I was known in high school. Awesome. I wasn’t known for anything except my body. “Upside-down pear” was another great name.

    The boobs didn’t show up until high school, so before then I was just “toothpick girl”. I never, EVER took my coat or sweatshirt off…even on hot muggy days. Better to be uncomfortable than picked on sometimes.

    Quite honestly, I have, for the most part, completely gotten rid of ALL female friends from my life. I discovered early on that guys are MUCH nicer to hang out with, and my boys will always be my best friends!

    Recently I began hanging out with girls again…and alllll the insecurities have returned, ten-fold. Not a SINGLE day goes by without some sort of joke by one of them, which then turns into group laughter and always someone who is there to say, “That’s awesome!”….how was that awesome? I’m fighting back tears, I hate myself around you, and that’s what you find awesome? What kind of insecure, jealous bitch gets their kicks from putting a friend down? Not okay!

    So yeah….I can eat an entire batch of brownies and not gain a pound. I can wear cute, form-fitting clothes and not worry about sucking in. I lost all the baby-weight a week after delivery. I can walk up the stairs without breaking a sweat. I can even see my own feet! Soooo….leave me alone!!! This is the way I was made!

    I have countless stories of people making me feel like shit just because I don’t weigh as much or have “love-handles”…(a polite word for ROLLS.)

    I also HATE HATE HATE the whole “real women have curves” bullshit we have to put up with. Here’s a small truth…..being fat doesn’t make you any more feminine! I have just as much estrogen as any plus size lady out there. My ovaries work just fine, thank you, and as far as I know, I don’t have a prostate! How DARE you make me feel like less of a woman because I’m smaller than you.

    Anyway…that was my story turned rant. After a weekend out with the girls, I came home in tears and have been overly depressed…for no good reason. I came on here, found this website, and am so, so greatful to know that I’m not alone! Thank you all for sharing your stories. Never let anybody make you feel ANY less because of being who you are.

    • A.F.
      Posted March 25, 2010 at 5:43 am | Permalink

      Real women don’t need stupid euphemisms to feel good about themselves.

  86. Mike
    Posted December 8, 2009 at 2:12 pm | Permalink

    Don’t forget there are naturally skinny guys out there. As a child, I was so skinny that I could get my thumb and forefinger completely around my upper arm. I ate everything in sight, and never gained any weight. I was weaker than the other kids, and no good at sports. I grew up believing I wasn’t a real man, and that no girl would ever want me. I never dated in high school. While I got heavier with age, I couldn’t see it, and developed a case of Muscle Dysmorphia. That is sometimes called reverse anorexia, where you think you are too skinny. With that comes intense shame, and intense fear that someone will notice how skinny you are. For forty years I could not go to the beach, wear t shirts, or shorts. Finially I realized that this is not right, and it is OK to be skinny, and if somebody doesn’t like it, that’s too bad. It took ten years of baby steps, wearing t shirts, and shorts to get over it. Now I can go to the beach and swim, and if anyone sees my skinny arms and legs, so what? The important thing is there are other guys out there with the same problem. I know a very skinny fifteen year old boy who I mentor. He has no father, and he hangs out with me. He has told me the same things about being skinny that I have told you. I can help him.

  87. Melody
    Posted December 11, 2009 at 12:53 am | Permalink

    Hey! I have always been a little bit small at 5’4″ (which isn’t really that short), and I weigh about 117lbs (which isn’t REALLY that light. I have a small frame and am always told I need some “meat on my bones”. People have said i am thinner than some because I eat mostly vegetarian, but i haven’t always been vegetarian and have always been slim.
    When I went ont he pill I gained a bit of fat and I ate a lot of food to try and gain weight too and got up to 120lbs (woo-hoo…) but I have since decided I like myself being slim and I have taken a break from the pill and started eating healthily. I am now hovering around the 115lbs mark.
    I have friends who are plump and some who are stocky and they always comment, asking if I’m eating ok.
    After talking to them I usually find pictures of slim people to assure myself that being slim can be attractive, just as having curves can be.
    I’m so glad to find this website! I didn’t think anything like this existed.
    I have a male friend who has the same problem and has always been slim.

  88. Posted January 12, 2010 at 10:30 pm | Permalink

    Wow love that i found this site,and i agree 100% with mollies story.Never felt like i fit in with the highschool crowd and always with the elementry-middle school crowd.Freinds never could understand and guys wouldnt give us a second look.
    So thanks mollie for posting your story,and hope everything works out for you.

    • Mollie
      Posted January 13, 2010 at 4:36 am | Permalink

      Thank you for agreeing with me Khristy, it made me feel better to have someone sympathize. I hope everything works out for you too! :)

  89. Tania
    Posted January 13, 2010 at 6:24 am | Permalink

    So happy to find you all, and yet sad feeling all your pain as I relate to your experiences!

    I am a 28 year old female standing at 5″6 and weighing 90lbs. Good thing for me is that I can play the ‘race card’- I am south asian so genetically we are a smaller built group. HOWEVER… the interesting thing about society is that although we are taught to sympathize with ‘women of colour,’ people think that by default my size negates any other barriers I experience as a human being. As if racism and sexism aren’t bad enough, I also must endure the lonely torture of being the skinny girl- (which in my opinion is far more oppressive than being a woman of colour). I am a Canadian and people here are socialized not to see colour, so instead they see my size, and criticize not realizing that (in my case) one may have something to do with the other.

    lol reading how many of you do the leggings under the jeans trick! I did and still sometimes do this. In high school I wore two pairs of leggings under tight jeans even in the summertime!!! It is terribly uncomfortable but the confidence we get is totally worth it!

    I don’t know if this site has a section for this, but I am all for letting people know they cannot abuse us and we MUST put them in their place. There should be a list of comebacks to keep on hand when someone tries to steal our sunshine.
    A few of personal jems:

    “You’re legs are too skinny.” — “Well, while we’re on the subject of giving helpful criticisms, your nose is a little big, and your breasts are droopy.”

    “Do you eat?” — “No, why would I do that? With all the money I’ve saved from not eating, I can now afford liposuction on those hard-to-lose areas.” (personal fav)

    “You need to eat the whole menu.” — “I thought that’s what YOU were having?”

    “Are you anorexic?” — “Do you want me to be? Will it help you feel ‘normal’ if I am ‘abnormal’?”

    “You need to eat something.” — “You need to not eat something.”

    “real women have curves.” — “No, real women have enough brains to realize the ignorance of that comment.”

    (at the nightclub) “No, that girl is too skinny for me!.” — “Oh darn, I was really hoping I could (Insert sexual act here) but since you don’t like skinny girls I guess I’m outta luck!”

    personal anecdote… last summer I was dwelling on this issue that has tormented me for years. I was thinking about how someone whom I barely know can approach me and say “You look disgusting.” and then it hit me… You’ve come up to ME, you obviously don’t know anything about me, and you throw one of the most hurtful insults at me, and I’M the one who’s disgusting?? No, I’m not the one who’s disgusting- THEY are. If someone is going to hurt you they are a horrible excuse for a human being.
    Bells were going off in my head, and from that day onwards I hardly ever experienced negative comments from people about my size!
    Everything that my friends and family told me about how “it’s their problem” “Your beautiful” etc. started to really make sense, not because it sounds nice, but because I really believed it now.

    BE TOUGH! Don’t put up with losers, especially so called friends who don’t understand this basic thing about you. I read an earlier post about how someone received a horrible comment, and they were expected to stand there, ‘choking back tears.’ I just realized… why do we hold back the tears in front of them?? If we pretend everything is cool, they will continue to think their comments are cool. So cry and let them see the tears they cause.

    Just want to reiterate again- hardly anyone messes with me anymore! Why? I truly believe these people who make us feel bad are scum, and they are the ones in the wrong. Since I don’t tolerate ignorance, they can sense it from a mile away. Oh sure, they still STARE at me especially at my wee little legs, but rarely do I get comments anymore, lest they suffer the dire dire consequences!!

    • Erika
      Posted January 17, 2010 at 10:58 pm | Permalink

      I LOVE your comebacks!! I’m really going to have to use those sometime. Whenever someone says “You’re SOO skinny, don’t you EVER eat?”, I’m SO tempted to say “You’re sooo fat, don’t you ever STOP eating?”, but I can’t because I know that I’ll be fussed at for being “mean”.

    • A.F.
      Posted January 18, 2010 at 11:29 pm | Permalink

      I propose a counter slogan to that ‘real women’ thing: “ALL women have curves.”

  90. Rachel
    Posted January 14, 2010 at 12:28 am | Permalink

    Reading this, I feel as if maybe I’m a unique case because I’m really thin AND curvy. I’m almost 23, 5’3 1/2″ and about 98 pounds. BUT… I wear a 32C bra (not huge, but not flat like it seems I should be) and I have 34-35 inch hips and a butt that flops over. I can’t wear size 0 usually because of my butt and hips. It really makes no sense.

    One thing that annoys me is that my body is constantly thrown carelessly into the “boyish” category when it’s anything but just because my weight is low. Alterantely, it seems that every large woman out there likes to fancy herself “curvy” even when her body, in actuallity, is rather straight. Straight and heavy exists, and so does thin and curvy. If you can find me a boy with an 11-inch difference between his waist and hips, I’ll give you a prize. Seriously.

    I have a great best friend who is about 5’6″ and about 180 pounds, a size 16-18. Neither of us has ever had ANY problem in the guy department, so I guess the media lied about mens’ aversion to both skinny AND fat women. Also, oddly enough, my friend and I have the exact same hip-to-waist ratio, just in vastly different sizes.

    People usually guess my weight at about 110 pounds, which I’m glad of. But I look in the mirror and wonder why I weigh such a miniscule amount when I look pretty average. I rarely get comments about my weight. I have a boyfriend who adores my body, but I can’t be happy with it, really. If I could just be 107 pounds, I’d feel okay, but sadly, that goal feels impossible because no matter what I do, 100 is the biggest I get. I’d give the world just to like my body the way other people do.

    I’m curious as to whether any other girls out there share my odd problem of skinny by not straight?

    • A.F.
      Posted January 17, 2010 at 6:07 pm | Permalink

      Yep. I have the same ‘problem.’ I am a B-cup, but have an extremely tiny waist in addition to 35-inch hips. I can never find jeans that fit me in both the hips and waist. So when people start using all of that inaccurate rhetoric concerning women’s bodies, it bothers me, especially in the feminist community. Indeed, as many large women have straight figures as small women, yet we hear curvy, voluptuous, and womanly always used in opposition of thin or skinny. I am shaped like a woman, thank you very much, just a very small one.

      I, too, look pretty average, but it’s the size of my waist that people take so much offense to. My figure elicits hatred and insults from women, but men never seem to have had a problem with it. The sad thing is, I can find things I wrote years ago lamenting my ‘lack of curves,’ because I had come to equate being thin with being shaped like a 2 by 4, despite the mirror telling me different.

      In any case, there is nothing wrong with having a straight figure, and I still have yet to see a woman whose sides measure 180 degrees, no matter how small her bust and hips are. Anyway, I’m short and have bad skin, where are my euphemisms denigrating tall women with clear complexions as being concoctions of an oppressive media? Oh wait, I have self esteem, I don’t need euphemisms to feel validated.

    • Erika
      Posted January 17, 2010 at 10:50 pm | Permalink

      I sort of have that problem. I don’t have very big curves, but they’re THERE. I’m 5’6 and around 96-98 pounds, and I wear a 36B, 32 inch hips, and my waist curves in a LOT. It doesn’t seem very curvy because my curves aren’t as large as some other womens…I wear a size 0 or 1 and I still manage to be curvy, so I don’t get where skinny/size 0=curveless.

      Women always give me those “You have no boobs/butt/curves so men think you’re disgusting…I’m so much sexier than you because I have DDs and 40 inch hips even though I’m almost completely straight”. No one seems to understand that curvy is a shape, not a size. I’ve seen big girls that were completely straight up and down despite having larger breasts/butts.

      Boys used to make mean comments about me in elementary and middle school/early high school for being small and skinny, but now that I’m in high school a lot of guys don’t seem to mind my skinnyness at all. Weird how most guys don’t really mind it, yet many women/girls feel the need to tell me how “unsexy” I am, huh?

    • A.F.
      Posted January 19, 2010 at 3:21 am | Permalink

      It should also be noted that when a thin woman does have well-endowed hips or breasts, she still doesn’t qualify as ‘curvy.’ She becomes ‘boobs on a stick,’ or ‘a butt on a stick.’

  91. Posted January 30, 2010 at 12:58 am | Permalink

    Well hello every one im 16 and weigh 138-140 pounds now this may shock you and you might say to your self your perfectly fine but I use to go through the same thing u go through okay lemme tell you when I was 13 I was 98 pounds and size 32 a cup then I got my period at 15 and my bra size went up to a 36 a cup then now im 16 with a bra size 34b and I weigh 146pounds now when I turn 17 I am going to upgrade in bra size a 36c and when im 18 I will be a 38c now the reason why I say that is because I use to get picked on bullied whe I was younger just because I was different from everybody else body wise meaning. And now I have hips and booty with a flat stomach now when the people I went to school with who picked on me see me they wanna talk to me because ive gotten alot prettier then when I was younger basically my face filled out more from what they say so dont worry its all how you look at yourself will determine what people say about you trust me I know because I am skinny even though ive gained weight. Okay

  92. Posted January 30, 2010 at 1:14 am | Permalink

    Well hello every one im 16 and weigh 138-140 pounds now this may shock you and you might say to your self your perfectly fine but I use to go through the same thing u go through okay lemme tell you when I was 13 I was 98 pounds and size 32 a cup then I got my period at 15 and my bra size went up to a 36 a cup then now im 16 with a bra size 34b and I weigh 146pounds now when I turn 17 I am going to upgrade in bra size a 36c and when im 18 I will be a 38c now the reason why I say that is because I use to get picked on bullied whe I was younger just because I was different from everybody else body wise meaning. And now I have hips and booty with a flat stomach now when the people I went to school with who picked on me see me they wanna talk to me because ive gotten alot prettier then when I was younger basically my face filled out more from what they say so dont worry its all how you look at yourself will determine what people say about you trust me I know because I am skinny even though ive gained weight. Okay but I understand. Besides its all about genes.

  93. jacque bods
    Posted January 30, 2010 at 10:00 am | Permalink

    I’was 6’2 140 lbs buck teeth but I found that men in the same weight class seem to love my slim body boobs they dont worry about zits on and talking with other weman I find the veiw on those nice nights and our thin legs don’t stop half of him from makeing it if you know what I mean I’m 50 know and all in all school hell but we have it much better the rest on life

  94. jacque bods
    Posted January 30, 2010 at 10:02 am | Permalink

    I’was 6’2 140 lbs buck teeth but I found that men in the same weight class seem to love my slim body boobs they dont worry about zits on and talking with other weman I find the veiw on those nice nights and our thin legs don’t stop half of him from makeing it if you know what I mean I’m 50 know and all in all school’s hell but we have it much better the rest of life

  95. C'
    Posted February 13, 2010 at 7:13 pm | Permalink

    Im 14 and been skinny all my life. When i was younger i didnt really care about they way i looked but now im older i want to wear skirts to school, go out in summer in shorts and not constantly thinking to myslef do i look stupid, look how skinny me legs are. I eat loads and loads but dont seem to put it on. My mum says when i start my periods ill gain wait but she dosn’t know that for sure. I playy sports and run alot but my legs are still really skinny. My mates all have curves and bumps but im flat. I m glad someone has set up a page about this :)

  96. daniela barajas
    Posted February 14, 2010 at 6:06 am | Permalink

    thank you so much! this website makes me feel so much better knowing that their actually is some people out their that have my same issue
    im 14, 5’2 and about 90 pounds.i hate having to listen to people always telling me how skinny i am. its like shut up already its not like im not aware of it so why does everyone keep reminding me? they act like its okay to tell someone they are too skinny but it actually is hurtful.i wish more people could realize that.
    i have had people call me a stick before and one time i over heard a guy talking about me thinking i wasnt listening. he said “shes’s too skinny. i dont like skinny girls” i wanted to cry right there but i didnt because i was in class. i keep trying to gain weight but nothing ever happens:( idk what to do about it but i guess im just going to have to accept it.

  97. Daphne
    Posted February 22, 2010 at 2:22 am | Permalink

    I am so glad i found this website!!! it reli helps me a lot knowing there r so many girls out there havin the same problems as i do!! due to my skinny skinny phyisique i never felt sexy or u know like a ‘woman’ with curves and stuff… i still feel like havin the body of a 12 year old girl what made me even more unconfident! i hate going shopping for extra small or small and so many tops dont fit cause my boobs cant fill it out ^^ and of course i dont like running around wearing a swimsuit.

    btw while travelling japan i felt much more comfortable cauz a lot of girls were as skinny as me ^^ maybe i just hv to move there ^^

    i guess i just hv to be more confident!

  98. Raden
    Posted March 1, 2010 at 9:30 am | Permalink

    Is this a bord for guys to post as well?

    If it is, then here it goes.
    I’m 30 Years old. 5’10 and 145.
    Before any one says ” that’s not totally skinny”
    I can tell you, It took a good 3 years to pack on the muffin top : P the 15 pounds to go from 130 to 145 and still working on it.

    At first I though it was a curse but as I’m getting older I can give you some examples of why it is not.

    #1 Skinny is youthful! I’m 30 years old and can still pass for a 18. I actually got kicked out of a liquor store the other day despite the fact I had my drivers license (issued government photo ID) to prove my age. He said it had to be a fake and I ended up going home to get my passport. Dam was he suprised.

    #2 I was cloths shopping with a friend of mine and we both found a shirt we really liked. All that was left tho was size XX Large, I didn’t want to go home empty handed so I looked in the kids section and sure enough the same shirt was there, size X large for kids. Fit great and 1/2 price from the cost of the adult size.

    #3 While there are a lot of people concerned and even drive out of there way to get a calorie wise meal like a $10 sandwitch from subway (remember, any thing with the word HEALTHY in there company statement usually costs $4 more then it should) that still leaves them feeling hungry. I will slip in to any pizza joint, grab 4 slices of pizza and a coke for $5 and no I’m not worried about it going to butt.

    As far as other people making comments about my or your weight, RUDE comments show how people get jelious and rationalize what they can’t have or don’t understand, Lets see some examples.

    1 persons comment:
    Shes a good looking girl.
    Hes very muscular
    That guys got a nice car
    Shes got big boobs
    Shes got a great job
    He is very good looking
    And finally, That person is very skinny.

    lets take the same comments and add another persons uneducated response.


    Shes a good looking girl. Shes paid for that look. ( no, maybe she just naturally beautiful)

    Hes very muscular . It must be steroids (no, maybe hes just worked very hard or not at all his body’s genetically programed to get those results)

    That guys got a nice car. He must be overcompensating for a small penis. (maybe he really just likes having a nice car. To some, it might not be a priority but to him it is)

    Shes got big boobs. they have to be fake ( no maybe her body was progamed to be that way)

    Shes got a great job. Who did she sleep with to get it? (maybe shes actually a very smart girl and worked very hard to get where she is)

    He is very good looking. He must be gay. (no, maybe he enjoys or takes pride in his appearance. nothing to do with being gay, just self respect)

    That person is very skinny. Its because they don’t eat. ( no, like you and I we can pack the food down just like the rest of them if not even more. It just gets burned up faster because of our metabolism and ends up in the toilet the next day instead of our butt or gutt)

    So whats the solution?
    Educate people. Some one tells you your skinny
    the answer is easy
    No, I just have a high metabolism.
    I have found in my day to day travels that this answer alone seems to get through to almost every one. If people don’t understand what metabolism is, explain it to them.

    The next question I have is, why be ashamed of it?
    Its not a curse, its a gift! While there’s some looking to put weight on, there’s millions killing them selves trying to take it off.

    Science has spent billion’s of dollars, many years ripping apart and mapping our DNA.
    Why? ” OUR DNA AND OUR DNA ALONE” holds the key to the obese crises in America,.
    Think about it. Can you imagine the impact on the health care costs of America if there wasn’t 1 singe obese person out there? ( not holding a grudge with the obese, yes smokers, and druggies among otheres strain health care as well)

    On the flip side of things there are people that hate us a long with our genes and like to spread the hate. Who are these people?
    Surgeons getting paid BILLIONS of dollars for liposuction and tummy tucks to name 1 profession to lose out big if America got small through gene implants or therapy.

    So they push the idea that getting large is ok. So much so that people these days seem to think its the norm to be obese.

    As soon as a famous “in the spot light person”
    drops the weight, we all have to jump on them telling them it “looks unhealthy”" Quick, eat some food, gain weight” ( yes there are some exceptions of a few that over due there diet’s but its no reason to assume its because there throwing there finger down there throte or that they have some sort of medical issues.)

    If you want to look out of the box at this take war.
    No one likes war right? Wrong. People who manufacture weapons and or sell weapons would loose BILLIONS of dollars if all wars ended tomorrow. So they encourage the hate and the uneducated to create war.

    Our war if you want to call it that is
    we ALL have been programed through T.V and the media to think too skinny is unatractive or not healthy causing the public to encourage you amd i to “fix” our self. That our genes are bad and we should spend money on crap like weight gainers and other garbage to gain weight when in actuality, theres nothing wrong at all. The sad thing is if these people were not winning this war of manipulation over us, Then there would’nt be people on this web page so concerned about it.

    Some thing to think about next time your looking in the mirror. Is there some thing actualy wrong?
    HELL NO. Your hot!
    Some one is just trying to manipulate your brain to think there is.

    Your smart and through education like this, you now know theres nothing wrong/unhealthy with your body. Enjoy it. love it

    : ) But I have ranted long enough.

    My final comments.

    To all the other guys in my situation. There’s a ton of websites out there of other guys claiming they were super skinnys before and through some miracle potion ” in just 3 months they threw on 40 pounds of lean muscle mass,” I CALL BS. Offer me your program FREE upfront. If it is what you say it is and it actually managed to defy my genetics. I would pay you double what your asking for, But if it doesn’t ……….. you get nothing, Willing to take a wager? I think not

    I have tried them all. Fat shakes, special diets and wounder pills. They simply don’t work. Don’t waist your money on something that tastes awful, gives you gutt rot and in the end “literally”…… just give you the craps. Nothing worse then “flushing” your hard earned money down the drain.

    The only product that marginally helped was creatine. But again, it took 5 different brands to find one that actually did what it promised to do and you can only use it for 6 months out of the year. Any longer and you risk serious liver damage.

    And to all the Lady’s posting on this site.

    Because I cant seem to find any of them.
    I LOVE small packages and despite the fact I live in a city of a million……….. small packages are hard to find.

    I truly miss being able to spoon on the couch with a 110 pound girlfriend on a cold winter night.

    Peace from Raden
    Calgary Alberta.

  99. Marjorie
    Posted March 5, 2010 at 6:20 am | Permalink

    Raden, I really liked your comment. I live in New York.

    • Raden
      Posted March 10, 2010 at 5:35 am | Permalink

      New York?
      Dam Marjorie, I think im living on the worng side of the nation. Seems to be alot from the East coast.

  100. Zarahh
    Posted March 10, 2010 at 12:21 am | Permalink

    Hi,, Fibally IM NOT Alone,, Uqhh I Hate MY Bodyy, I Am 14 Years 0ld &nd 0nlyy 95 Pounds., My Friends Always Compare Me To Other Skinny Chikks Around School And It Makkes Me Go Homee And Cry All Day.,, Be Cause Me Seeinq How I Really Lookk And Too See Tht Im Wire Hanqer Skinny Is Veryy Hurtful.,
    Findinq Pants Is So Hardd Cuz I Dnt ant Tht SUPA Skinny Loookk. I Mean C’Mon Who Does. ! And Kidds At Hiqh School Always Pikk 0n Me About How Skinny &nd Tiny I Am. . .Bruahh I Need Help Badd., I Cant FREAkiNG Standd My Size. :(

    • Raden
      Posted March 10, 2010 at 5:12 am | Permalink

      Zarahh, your judging your body way to harshly.
      While it might be hard to picture right now, you have the
      upper hand over your friends.

      I know 1 year seems like a long ways away,
      but for evey year that goes by you will still keep
      your sleek legs, your tiny butt that will look awsome
      in a pair of lu lu lemon ( thats spelt wrong I know, shows how much I shop there uh? ) pants and body that will look awsome in a bikini.

      And then your so called friends, evey year that goes by
      for them wont be so nice. Cankles, rolls, the works.
      Not attractive at all.

      School sucks I know. lol .. I would never do it again.
      People can be very mean and there only doing it to
      make them selvs feel better cause there going through there
      own insecuritys. I can promise you there will be women that look at you and say to them self “oh god I wish I had her body” I can be something totaly different as well. Maybe they love your hair or your face and feel jealous so they put you down.

      Things will get better with time. You just have to let it.

  101. Liliana
    Posted March 10, 2010 at 9:00 pm | Permalink

    im glad u made this site. im 14 yrs old, 5’4 im kinda tall bt i realy hate it cus i look like a stick tall and skinny, and i weigh 100 wich is not much. i hate being skinny i always try to eat as mcuh as i can but it jst makes me feel sick.i never thot u qurls would feel this way too. it realy sucks to not have big boobs and big butts like other gurls. also wat i hate the most is my legs im always wearing jeans cus i hate my stick legs. i jst wish i was thikker. :(

  102. Marjorie
    Posted March 11, 2010 at 12:21 am | Permalink

    Since i don’t see my story here Im going to write it down.
    Im soo happy first of all that this website is up. There is not a lot of support for skinny people.
    So here’s my story:
    I was born 8 pounds as a baby. I was always small but it didn’t seem to matter cus i was a little girl. When I grew up by around 10-12 i saw that I was skinnier than others, but this didn’t bug me until when i was 12 every girl my age i knew was growing boobs. Mines didn’t grow in until I turned 13.
    I remember people making fun of me “you got no boobs hahaha”
    So when I was in the seventh grade people used to laugh at how skinny i was. I felt soo embarrased I took 7 knit stockings and wore them over my legs because of the torment. The time around June, I was wearing all those stockings and it was really hot. I was ittchy and my legs were sore because I had to walk and not let the crest of how many stockings i was wearing show. Imagine walking uncomfortably for 6 hrs. Even sitting down i had to hide the crest. It was a very painful experience, I remember when I would come home my legs would be red from the heat. I wanted people to leave me alone. I felt so unattractive, still waiting too for my boobs to grow. Now Im a 32 A.
    When I went to high school, well I still am in high school, Im 17 yrs old, Im 5’8 and i weigh 113 pounds. I still get the comments but because of the experience i had in elementary school, Im a little stronger. It still hurts because people call me a twig and a skeleton and laugh hysterically like im some freak show.My teacher was like “you need to gain sum weight for the new year” and everyone in the class laughed hysterically. I feel like i want to hit them, but i just don’t say anything and when i come home i just think about it.
    Also In english class we were learning a new vocabulary word and it was malnutritioned and my english teacher said that malnutrition was skinny people and this girl im my class was always bothering me saying “Malnutritioned” to me. First of all I am NOT malnutrioned and if you eat your not malnutritioned. If I was malnutritioned I wouldn’t be able to walk or carry things. Someone whose malnutrioned feels pain in all parts of their body. Im fine.
    To tell the truth, I don’t know how people get so big. I eat whatever i want, when i want, as many times i want.
    I can walk to to Mc Donald’s for a whole year and come out the same. I guess i just have a high metabolism.
    My family is not skinny, and im not genetically skinny. Im skinny because I love to dance. Dancing makes me soo happy. Ive been dancing since i was 6 yrs old. There was a point in my life where I was like “maybe i should stop dancing”, and i stopped for about 3 yrs and I didn’t even gain weight. I became very depressed and I hated myself soo much. I got cranky not dancing.
    I now see my little sister grow up, she’s 3 yrs younger than me and she has bigger boobs than me. I believe she’s 5’4 and weighs around 120 pounds
    Also I hate it that just because Im skinny people think
    i can’t carry heavy things.
    I was supposed to carry a monitor to my house and my mother was like “your really skinny you can’t carry that”. I proved her WRONG, I actually WAS able to carry it.
    I also hate it how when I go to a store the clothes say SMALL and then when I put it on its loose.
    Also i wonder why people use the term “soo skinny”. There is in fact no such thing as “soo skinny”
    skinny means very thin. so the term soo skinny makes no sense. people just want to drive you crazy
    Its hard to make friends because Im soo different, Not only that Im skinny, but because im quiet. I hate school too.
    people say i look like a twing but the only reason why i look like a twig is because im lean flesh. I think I look cute. All skinny people are cute.

    • Zainab
      Posted March 11, 2010 at 1:24 am | Permalink

      Let me just tell you how exact your story is to mine. I am so glad when i found this site *like everyone else* People need to really get it thorugh there heads that skinny people are beautiful. Would you go up to a fat person and tell them ‘oh look how fat your legs are’. No you wouldnt. **at the verge of crying here** I’ve stuffed myself to the point where i was in so much pain. all that pain for no weight gain. i’m eating all the right stuff but still no help. All the ‘fit’ people of ‘fat’ people are so harsh. My friends are included in that group. Not everyone was blessed with the great body. we just have to work a little harder. But hey, i heard you get fatter when ur pregnant. lol i laughed so hard when i heard tht. (im 13 btw) anyway some days when it really hit me hard about my weight, i felt like getting pregnant but who would want me. School is just so judgemental and the ublic is the same. I DONT KNOW WHat TO DO. But hey at least we have each other

      • Marjorie
        Posted March 12, 2010 at 12:56 am | Permalink

        Don’t feel bad for who u are. I kno how friends can be.
        naturally skinny people have great bodies too. Our bodies are longer (well if your tall).
        People only say their bodies are great because the majority of them have similar shapes.
        Your unique and your not the only one. Trust me, you should be happy for what you are.

      • Zainab
        Posted April 4, 2010 at 12:59 am | Permalink

        thanks majorie

  103. Raden
    Posted March 11, 2010 at 12:53 pm | Permalink

    I do have to say, I never truly understood what the meaning
    to eat was was until I watched this video on youtube.
    Its in 7 parts and I suggest any one on here looking to gain weight to watch it. Look up “Why Are Thin People Not Fat”
    I though 3000 to 3500 calories a day was enough. LOL I was mistaken.

    • Marjorie
      Posted March 12, 2010 at 12:29 am | Permalink

      I really don’t know how many calories i consume each day. I just eat when I get hungry, which is like every 3 hours. The portion of my food is medium/large. I make sure im full but not really full because then I start to feel sick, and i would get a piercing stomach pain and when i stand it would be hard to stand.
      Lol, like the guy said in the video “Im on the sea food diet, I see food then I eat it”.
      The documentary is right though, how some participants went through the experiement and some gained weight quickly than others. If I over ate maybe i can gain more weight but its painful to gourge myself with a lot of food, I can’t handle it LOL
      If i was in the experiment I would be the guy with the long brown hair.
      I like your attitude though Raden. I wish I had friends who are like you :D

      • Raden
        Posted March 12, 2010 at 2:24 am | Permalink

        You do. Were all friends here

  104. Posted March 12, 2010 at 5:03 pm | Permalink

    God created us all and given us a life. We live because of God. The purpose of life is to become closer to God each and everyday. Stop hating life! I know “Life” has a lot of sufferings & problems. But, that’s just the humanity proving that NO ONE is perfect except God. Just pray and have FAITH. If we do not know God, we don’t know why are we living. Without God, we are NOTHING. Just remember, EVERYTHING is POSSIBLE with God. People living the luxury life or enjoying life more than you? It’s NOT that they are lucky. It’s that they have been blessed by God. Not for those who are lucky, but for those who BELIEVE! Do NOT GIVE UP on your LIFE! Miracles HAPPEN. Sacrifice for GOD because he sacrificed for US ALL! GOD BLESS ME AND EVERY EVERY EVERYBODY IN THE WORLD!


    • Marjorie
      Posted March 12, 2010 at 9:01 pm | Permalink

      I don’t have issues with being skinny if Im healthy i just hate people bashing me for what i am and what i can’t change.

    • Gloria
      Posted August 2, 2011 at 6:44 pm | Permalink

      I’m so skinny and I love it too!

  105. Posted March 13, 2010 at 11:15 am | Permalink

    What I’m saying it’s true. Everything is possible with God. It’s not offensive of what I just said. I want everybody to become closer to God each and everyday by praying. That’s not even offensive. I believe in God that’s why.

    • Posted March 17, 2011 at 2:10 pm | Permalink

      I believe that too . The Lord wanted for us to be skinny he chosed that for a good reason
      sorry for my bad english

  106. Raden
    Posted March 21, 2010 at 5:01 am | Permalink

    Im sitting down nursing a very brused eye from todays
    Poi lession, if its not not my face its the nutts X ( .
    and I came across this video on you tube.

    Great for 2 reasons.

    1 this girl documents every thing in her day to day hoop practice. You can tell when she starts, shes about 15 and very skinny. Then at about 25 shes filled out very nicely.

    2 If your trying to learn any thing, this video is a great insperation.

  107. Lil Tiff
    Posted April 1, 2010 at 2:03 am | Permalink

    I am 5ft 6inches, almost 16 and just made it to 93lbs. I am probably the skinniest girl at my school and it absolutely sucks.
    People have no problem telling me that I look like a twig. People judge me and think I am anorexic or have some other eating disorder, when if you know me, I am an absolute pig when it comes to food! Everyone, including teachers, family, random people I’ve never seen before, and coaches, pick on me because of my weight but I have no doubt that they wouldn’t say any of that to an overweight person.
    Personally I feel that it is worse to be underweight than overweight because people think its wrong to pick on a heavy person but feel its okay pick on how skinny someone is. They tell me its a compliment. Saying you look two dimesional, have toothpicks for limbs, and should still be in a car seat are not what I consider compliments.
    I am sooo glad I found a place where there are other people who have the same problems as me.

  108. Posted April 6, 2010 at 2:12 am | Permalink

    Dear Lil Tif,

    Welcome to our Web site. I hope you find this to be a community where you can be yourself. Thanks for sharing your story.


  109. sandy
    Posted June 15, 2010 at 4:55 am | Permalink

    Hey I just ran across this site because I often search for petites like myself. I’m 5’1 and 96 pounds and I feel hot ! I’m a size zero bona-fide and i am brown skinned which is rare. However as early as my ex boyfriend I felt awkward and still do. Because all the girls with the huge butts and boobs get the guys even the fat obese women. I

  110. sandy
    Posted June 15, 2010 at 5:01 am | Permalink

    hHey I just ran across this site because I often search for petites like myself. I’m 24
    5’1 and 96 pounds and I feel hot ! I’m a size zero bona-fide and i am brown skinned which is rare. However as early as my ex boyfriend I felt awkward and still do. Because all the girls with the huge butts and boobs get the guys even the fat obese women. All my friends are at least 2 times bigger than me and they seem to get the most attention with the butts. I stay fit as well and often get accused of being anorexic im like i love pizza and fattening foods including the new double down sandwich but my weight just stays the same. However my ex would like someone with huge boobs and all the curvy glory. I’ll never have curvy glory but ill just live with being a pint size woman with a cups. However i do want a boob job.

  111. Henrij
    Posted June 15, 2010 at 8:29 pm | Permalink

    Hi everyone!

    My name is Henrij. I live in The Netherlands. I’m 26yr young male, weigh 57Kg and am 188cm tall. This means I have a BMI (Body/Mass indicator) of 16.1!

    So, I’m skinny too! This is not easy for me. Scared to wear shorts or sleeveless shirts. Scared going to the beach or swimming pool. And most off all, scared about what other people think about me. I mean, who want’s a boyfriend who has a smaller size jeans then you?

    I tried different kind of diets. Fish diet, shakes (as extra), bars. Nothing works on my!

    Does anyone have an idea to help me?

    Thnx for listening (reading) and sorry for my poor English ;)

    Regards, Henrij

  112. Posted June 16, 2010 at 4:54 pm | Permalink

    Hey Henrij!

    Welkom op mn website! Jaja, ik kom ook uit Nederland! I live in Texas, but was born and raised in the Netherlands :-) Good to see another Dutch person here.

    I’m so glad Raden offered to help you. So sweet!

    If you have any questions, comments, or tips for other naturally skinnies, let us know. And keep in touch!

    - Pelpina

  113. Posted March 17, 2011 at 2:04 pm | Permalink

    Hi There! My name is Suzanne and i am 13 years old. I am naturally skinny :D I do really like it when people think
    i am anorexic or have some other eating disorder,even if no one says it to me you can just tell they want to say it , but that’s not true every day i eat chocolate , cakes , ect.
    .I eat what normal people eat like shepherds’ pie and stuff with fat in. What really hurt my feelings when i has to pretends to faint in drama class at school and is fat boy said i drop like a bag of s#it!
    Everyone laughed , most of them was laughing of the way i pretends to faint becuase it was a comedies but say DO NOT LET PEOPLE LIKE THAT GET YOU DOWN BECAUSE YOU WILL TURN OUT BETTER THAN THEM!

  114. doppleganger
    Posted March 28, 2011 at 1:17 pm | Permalink

    a few weeks ago i was eating and some kid came up to me and said “wow, i didnt know you ate.” obviously saying im anorexic.. this wasnt the first time he said something like this to me, and not just him. it hurts alot and i still cry over it. i have no problem with my body but when people say things like this to me, which is often, i feel like im a freak.

  115. Gloria
    Posted August 2, 2011 at 6:49 pm | Permalink

    Hi Pelpina! You’re so beautiful.

    Hi skinnies! I’m naturally very thin and I love it! I feel great and people tell me many compliments about it, especially boys.

    Some of you don’t get it now because you’re very young. But when you turn 20+ you’ll understand how good it is to be very thin :D


  116. Viktor
    Posted August 16, 2011 at 8:10 am | Permalink

    It’s a shame we’re dispersed all around the world when we’re a minority. But then again all of us experience the same lesson.

    I always feel lonely at this area, since people like us don’t seem to exist. Everyone around me is normal…
    Or bigger…. They comfortably wear shorts, t-shirts, clothes that I couldn’t wear comfortably since I was little kid.

    In america, they made a reasearch on this with prisoners. Gave dem overload with foods to see how much weight they gained.
    The outcome was that some gained massive kg, while others (us) only gained as much as one single kg.
    They HAD to conclude that for some: Gaining weight is physical impossible.

    I’m 20 and I’m starting as a vegeterian now. I dont’t care about gaining weight anymore. It’s not worth paying attention too.
    Try to focus on what makes you happy. Do things you enjoy doing. People will like/love you equally as long as you’re happy with youself. Doesn’t matter if we’re skinny, fat or average (another word for boring).

    Personality is the ultimate winner no matter which path you choose. Love to you all!

  117. Kenia
    Posted August 26, 2011 at 9:15 am | Permalink

    Wow do you know how long I have been looking for answers on how to gain weight wondering if this is normal. I have always been stuck at 90lbs, I’m 25 and all through middle school and high school I was picked on. Guys would not date me becuz I was not big enough and I look to young. I recently just had a baby. She is now 2 months old ; ) while I was pregnant with her I went up to 120 lbs starting from 90 lbs, now I’m back down to 95 struggling to keep it on weighing myself everyday because I’m afraid to lose it. T thought after having a baby I would at least stay at 98lbs if not a 100lbs. I can relate to everyone on here. It does suck and as much as you try to tell yourself it is what it is and it’s how God made you, you still lack confident. And because I’m black all my peers think I should be so much bigger, and call me anorexic. It pisses me off. But I have a beautiful baby girl and even though I have always been small I have always had a nice shape. So I’m proud to be lil ol me Ms. Petite ;D

  118. Posted November 23, 2011 at 2:57 pm | Permalink

    I was so surprised when I found your site. Here I’ve been debating for months now about writing an article for my own blog about what it’s like from our side of things because I thought that no-one had ever written about it. It took me a while though, because I already know how it will be received by many. My own hesitation became the reason that drove me to finally write about it. It’s just as important for people to be made aware of the discrimination against naturally thin people as it is for people to be aware of the same against obese people. If you look at what so many people are saying, it seems the only difference between the two groups are 1.) Skinny people weight less & 2.) Skinny people seem to have far more empathy towards the obese than the obese do towards the skinny people. I find it quite sad that so many obese people who are detrimentally affected by the way society treats them would turn around and treat a skinny person the very same way.

    Have any of you found that your being skinny causes women in social settings to assume you’re a threat to their ‘relationships’ simply because of your figure? This is the scenario in which I tend to get the majority of the comments and nasty treatment towards my weight. I’m 5’4 and fluctuate regularly between 115 and 120 lbs. Even after having two children. I even get the hateful vibes from other mothers at school functions and the like. Another is at work, from the groups of women who all get together to support one other on a particular diet or weight loss fad. OMG they can be so cruel.

    Anyways, thanks so much for this site. It really does help to know it’s not just me and that I’m not just being ungrateful about being thin.

  119. carriee
    Posted December 1, 2011 at 11:48 am | Permalink

    I am Carriee, turning 30 this month and I am about 5’8. I tried everything on this planet to gain weight and look more attractive…..being around 93 pounds, I feel slightly deformed. I still look 14. My body’s naturally happy weight is 89, I had to diet(eat lots) to get to 93 and stay there. I spend countless amount on food and scientific researches to break this pattern. I participated in clinical trials, still, no avail. I wish I could magically wake up and be 130 tomorrow, maybe then, someone will ask me out. I don’t get the trend of skinny because I am not too proud of my weight and I wish I wasn’t so tiny. I can’t find clothes at all. Since I am half Thai, I often go back to Asian countries to shop for myself. I live in California where being thin=gorgeous. But being too thin like me often just cause negative attentions. I am on yet another diet to gain weight. This one is called slowing down the metabolism.

  120. Sheema Hossain
    Posted December 18, 2011 at 3:14 pm | Permalink

    hey there! I’m so glad to see that there are other people just like me out there! I’ve been thin all my life and still cringe every time I remember being called olive oyl in school! I still have trouble understanding why its rude to call someone fat but okay to make fun of someone thin…things are a bit different here on this side of the globe (I’m from Bangladesh) and the traditional idea of beauty is a round-ish figure so that most women prefer having more meat on themselves…which is fine, except not for me, lol. I too went through that unhealthy phase of forcing myself to overeat just to gain weight but with time have come to realize that being able to eat without gaining weight has its pros (i can eat all the chocolate i want :D)..also as you grow up you do grow out of the awkward phase and look more comfortable in your body.

  121. selene
    Posted January 14, 2012 at 10:20 pm | Permalink

    hi my name is selene i am 5 ’7 and i am 15 years old ,since the 6th grade i have been extreamly upset about the way i look all of my friends are shorter than me and have great looking bodies i remember being called a walking stick and and a whole bunch of other nasty nicknames no guys find me atractive because of my physicall apperance its very depressing that most of the girls around me dont look like me i have tried many stupid stunts so that i could gain more fat but they didnt work since my mom’s side of the family is naturally skinny i am too i have talked to my parents about the way i feel and they say that i should be proud about the way i look but i tell them that they just understand… im in highschool right now and things have gotten better but i still cant get over about the way i look i feel so unatractive =[

    • Kristen
      Posted March 24, 2012 at 2:20 am | Permalink

      Don’t worry, you will fill out later on in life, believe me! I used to hate being so skinny when I was in jr. high/high school, but you will mature and fill out, if not in your 20s, then in your 30s. Now I’m really glad I was skinny, otherwise I’d be a lot heavier than I am now! See my story at the bottom of the “About” page (dated today, 3/24/12)! You will gain weight some day, sooner than you think. All you should worry about is taking care of yourself and keeping healthy. If you have health and energy you have everything, and anything is possible. Some people can be jerks, but others will love you for you and they are the ones worthy of your time and energy. Best wishes!

  122. Posted May 10, 2012 at 7:25 pm | Permalink

    I’m 22 years old and have been naturally skinny all my life. I was healthy as a child and in my early teenage years, and wasn’t underweight but borderline underweight and finally broke the 110lb mark at 13 years old (I was around 5’3 at that time). A couple of years later I struggled with many illnesses and lots a ton of weight from a lot of stress and anxiety. When I was determined to look better and healthier, but it took me about 4 years to reach that goal. I used to weigh under 110lb (around 90) and I felt so ugly and thought I looked ill. Being a teenager I wanted to look pretty like all the other girls at school who had breasts and hips already. I now weigh between 110-120lb, it fluctuates between that. Sometimes it gets below 110lb and that starts to worry me. I’d love to ideally just always be at 120lb because I look healthy, I feel healthy, and I have a lil bit of a chest (even that, I only wear AA cup bras..). I have an unusually high metabolism and it seems impossible for me to put on weight no matter what I eat or do. I’m not super active either/exercise much. I love food though and love to eat, I do eat a lot of food – people just don’t believe me. I don’t know how many calories I eat but I would guesstimate 2000-3000 calories a day, to just try to stay as close to 120lb as possible. I do have many anxiety issues and in times of stress I lose tons of weight, like 10+ lb in matter of a week or two. I basically have to keep my appetite and meal intake up for my weight to be at the healthy point I want it to be and not underweight. Despite being at 110-120lb I still feel I lack curves. I do like my body though, and have accepted the way it is and that I’m naturally thin and not curvy, but there are time I feel envious of curvier women with bigger busts. But that’s just life, and I don’t let it affect me so much. :)
    Thank you Pelpina for creating such a great community for us skinnies!

  123. maria
    Posted July 20, 2012 at 3:43 am | Permalink

    I’m 20 years old, Taiwanese, and have been naturally skinny all my life. Before I was born, my mum spent 4 months in hospital before giving birth to me, and during this time, she was malnourished and therefore so was I. And so, I’ve been tiny all my life. I’ve been called chicken legs, stick, midget, anorexic etc name it, I’ve heard it all before. I have great difficulty trying to gain any sort of weight and so my BMI is quite low. I love food and I have a healthy diet (with the occasional treat now and then ;) ), however I have absolutely no idea where everything goes haha! I have skinny arms, skinny legs, small breasts (EXTREMELY small…) and I’ve had people constantly telling me to eat more and eat more burgers/pies (because that’s definitely a healthier option to gain weight…) and to be quite honest, it takes a lot of effort to restrain myself from giving them a piece of mind, especially when I’m having a bad day or just not in the mood. I can usually joke around about how small I am, because yes, I am really quite happy with my height (good things come in small packages right?) but sometimes, I just don’t want to hear it, especially if it’s about my weight. I’ve never felt good enough or prettier enough to be in a relationship, and I always just think it’s because guys just don’t find me attractive because of how small I am. I’m not THAT fragile haha! Not only am I underweight, but i also have a curved spine (scoliosis). It’s not as bad as some cases, but it is always at the back of my mind and so I am always aware of how i am standing, sitting, walking..making sure my right shoulder is pulled back to make it look even with my left etc etc, and worried whether other people can see it and whether they are judging how strange my posture is. HOWEVER, after discovering this site, I am beginning to accept everything small and delicate about me =). The previous comments and stories help me realize that I am not the only one with problems, but I’m so glad that many of us are working through them or have already! I’m happy to say that I love my petite frame (although a bit more curves would help me love it even more) and that I am happy to know that there is support for all of us adorable fun-sized beautiful people! Thank Peplina!

    • Posted July 28, 2012 at 7:03 am | Permalink

      I know how you feel. I have scoliosis too but it’s not that obvious unless I bend over. I just found out about it about 4 years ago when I had undergone a medical and physical examination because I was applying to work abroad. It showed on my Chest X-Ray. It’s too late for me now that I can no longer wear braces. This is the reason why when I was a lot younger, I noticed when I walk, it is not balanced, I thought my hips were disproportioned or something.

      • maria
        Posted July 30, 2012 at 4:51 am | Permalink

        Hi Pamela! How are you doing now? I found out around my teenage years (possibly 13-14) while I was sitting down on the floor hunched over reading. My mum saw and took me to a chiropractor. He didn’t suggest wearing a brace, but surgery instead. My parents were not too keen on me having surgery and neither was I so I’ve just lived with it. I notice that my walking isn’t quite right either…It’s not exactly weird but I completely understand with your thought of hips not being proportioned or something, so I’m always aware of my walking and how I’m walking, and whether people behind me notice. Very self-conscious about this but I try not to think too much into it =). Hope you are doing fantastically well!! Thank you for commenting, it helps me to know that someone understands what it is like to have scoliosis.

  124. Pamela
    Posted July 28, 2012 at 6:58 am | Permalink

    I’m so glad I’m not alone. I understand the woes of being too skinny. I was really skinny before. I am 30 years old right now. I was skinny all my life until last year. At 5’4″, I only weighed about 103pounds and people around me would taunt that I am too skinny and I should eat more. I actually eat a lot! But it’s hard for me to gain weight. It really hurts to be told that I am skinny, lanky, stick. People will make fun of me. But despite being skinny, the only part of my body with a lot of meat are my legs, I got huge legs despite having narrow hips and too small arms so I get to wear shorts. It’s the only part of my body I am proud of.
    I actually noticed that most people (generally women) will tease and make fun of my weight are more on the heavier side. Women with average weight don’t mind me, only heavy people. One time, I was really pissed off by my co-worker who teased me for being skinny. Since she was a Muslim, I called her a pig. lol Until now, I know she have’t forgive me because of that. I know I shouldn’t have said that but she was really irritating and it was not the first time that she said those things. Why is it easier for people to pick on small women than larger women? I even tried birth control pills for three years but never gained a pound.
    Things changed last year, I started to work out and take a medication called “Mosegor”. It’s an international brand and I hope you guys have it in your country. It’s a medication primarily for migraine but the side effect is increase in appetite and weight gain. In the Philippines, Mosegor has multivitamins. I’m currently based in Saudi Arabia and Mosegor here has no multivitamins. My current weight is 122 pounds and I’m so glad I’m no longer the skinny I used to be.
    So girls out there, don’t despair. There is hope for everyone. Mosegor is safe, I noticed gain weight in about a month of taking it. I gained half pound every month until my weight went up to 122 pounds. i think I’ve reached my limit, I’ve been staying on the same weight for quite a few months now but I’m still taking it. My arms are now of “normal” size. I can say I look pretty normal with my current weight. My only downside is my boobs, it’s still the same flat iron board unless I’ll bend down. It grew a few centimeters but you can’t tell the difference because I’m still wearing the same 32A bras.
    I’m not here to advertise a brand, but I would recommend Mosegor. But be warned, it will make you really sleepy so please take it before bedtime.

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