By Sarah Kent
I am a 31 year old mother of two, my height is 5.5” I don’t run around like a headless chicken, I eat healthy and well, so why am I 7 ½ stone? (105lb, 48kg) Now I don’t want to ask this question, but with skinny celebrity’s, the rights and wrongs of diets in the front of the media spot light - I find myself not only answerable to me, but the rest of the people I come across on a day to day basis.
I haven’t always been this weight, I used to be a “healthy” 9 stone, but like Victoria Beckham I lost weight after the birth of my first child ten years ago. Now you could put this down to stress, responsibility, many reasons - but until this day my weight has not fluctuated, even at the most stressful time in my life when I lost my dad to cancer my weight did not plummet.
I don’t really exercise other than run around after the kids; I eat what I want, sometimes skip breakfast but who doesn’t when you have screaming kids to get to school.I can almost here your screams “this girl should see herself as lucky” believe me - it really isn’t that way.
I strongly believe that if you are slightly over weight or to the extreme of enormously, people do not tend to say anything to you to your face. However, in my experience, being skinny seems to give people the right to make harsh comments: “you must be ill?" I personally think they are waiting for me to crack and to admit: ”yes you are right, I do have an eating disorder.” I am frequently asked by the same people if "I’ve been to the doctors?” Or am I trying to "look like a celebrity?"
I have even been told I look emaciated, more than once. I am then expected to carry on with my pleasant day without giving it a second thought. What gives people the right to be so cruel - without thinking that it could just be the fact that even though I am slim like many other women, I am healthy. What also allows people the right to make me stand at my wardrobe and question how I will look in perfectly fine clothes?
Who do I hold responsible? The like’s of Victoria Beckham, Kera knightly, Catwalk models? Or is it the media - for printing pictures with shocking headlines daily, on how we should or should be? I really feel for Victoria Beckham, could it in fact be that she is just thin? Would so many young girls suffer with eating disorders if the media didn’t go highlight the celeb’s so much? Yes there are celebrities and models who suffer from some sort of eating disorder; over the years pictures of Nichole Ritchie clearly show the difference between someone who does have problems against someone who doesn’t. It is not the models faults for being so thin, it is the people in the model industry, they should have been made to eat a balanced diet before going on the catwalk. I could be wrong but I feel if there is blame it is not with the models they are clearly being used as a scapegoat. Do you ever see a picture of model agencies getting a battering for making the girls thin or is it the thin model we see?
There is a very thin line between healthy skinny and unhealthy skinny; I am happy with who I am, I will even take the backlash; I just hope that the media isn’t in fact creating eating disorders rather than preventing them.
Sarah also made a popular YouTube video on this subject. Click here to watch it. Thanks so much for sharing your story on our website, Sarah!
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